"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Is this normal? Can you guys shed some light on this for me?!

TheMonkeyKing

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It seems quite natural what you're describing man. Especially for one so young :up: You get a bit hardened to it after my long years!

But I still think about mine too, most of them. Some less than others, for obvious reasons. There's only one who I don't have particularly fond memories of, but I still think about her most days, but then I am one who thinks about most people I know most days.

You'll still think about her once you met someone else too. The secret is to not let it show, nor to even draw comparisons. Your NEXT will be even hotter, smarter and more entertaining than you ex anyway, so you might not even think about the ex much at all.

Six months ago, I thought I'd never get over my last gf. Now I have met at least one plate who seems in many (most) ways more appropriate, while having a couple more on the go.

Stick with it friend.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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