"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is this mean?

DJinTraining06

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I have a question. This female friend of mine has liked me for years since college, she even asked me out a couple years after college and i turned her down and said i just wanted to be friends. Since then she has done most of the keeping in touch. We only really go to met's game together a couple times a season now. Well she brought her friend this yr to one of the games and she was really cute, and was firting with me, hitting me on the arm and stuff like that when i was being ****y and funny and stuff. When my friend went to the bathroom i was alone with her for like 5 mins, but it wasnt enuff time to talk to her. I have never seen this girl again its been months, but i saw her on my friends myspace and left her a - lets go mets! comment. She replied back to just say soemthin bout the mets. But before that my friend mentioned to me that her friend wanted to aplogize for not replyign to me on myspace for so long cuz her computer was broken. The fact the my friend made a pt of tellin me this kinda makes me think her friend is interested.

Would it be ok to ask this girl to hang out? assumign i get some more messages goin with her and stuff.I feel like im insulting my friend bad if i do. Not sure if thats messed up or not. Cuz my friend really has a thing for me.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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d9930380

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That's life. Your friend just has to accept it and get over it. You're not doing anything wrong.

Besides girls are better at seeing these things before they happen anyway. I would guess they already know what your intentions are (she did say that the other girl was sorry for not replying) and she may even have been fixing you two up in the first place.

Before they came to the Mets game, do you not think the conversation went like this:

"I'm bringing a friend, he's a guy but only a friend"
"Is he cute?"
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DJinTraining06

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d9930380 said:
That's life. Your friend just has to accept it and get over it. You're not doing anything wrong.

Besides girls are better at seeing these things before they happen anyway. I would guess they already know what your intentions are (she did say that the other girl was sorry for not replying) and she may even have been fixing you two up in the first place.

Before they came to the Mets game, do you not think the conversation went like this:

"I'm bringing a friend, he's a guy but only a friend"
"Is he cute?"
.......
I dunno she had it bad for me at one time, and i think she still does, i doubt shed set up her friend with me. WHo knows
 
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