"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Allright I want everyones opinion.

I can get myself into the absolute greatest situiations with a girl but then I decide I like her and boom, the shyness bug hits. Its like wtf, I can do c&f, being above her and whatever the fvck else and she becomes attracted and then I decide I like her and then transform into a shy afc so its impossible to make any moves.

Yes this is afc but its gotta just be a phase. is it?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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hey there. there is a reason why you are falling back into afc and shy behaviour when you decide you like the girl... it is because you start to think that she is important to you, in a way putting her on the pedestal, and hence start to feel that you can't do all the c&f and things that made her attracted to you in the first place. well guess what, this is because you are afraid of losing her. in order to get the girl, you must first be willing to lose her. hope this helped
 
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best advice ive read about it: go into to it to learn. hell man if you screw up with a girl, but you learn somthing not only are you better for it, but it also breeds the 'theres plenty of fish in the sea' mentality. it doesnt matter that you effed up big time with that one girl... your just trying to learn.
I think the article is somewhere on this site but idk.
 
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