is this good or bad?

[Crazy Asian]

to be honest, CA,
my friend and i both think you are too "lazy" and arrogant and too full of yourself...and you seem don't even care about anything``

that's what some girl said to me over e-mail
now back in the day, i would've loved to hear this since i was an afc, but now i don't think being egotistical is good. maybe being arrogant is not a good thing. i'm trying to become a nicer guy, but i'm confused on which path to take...

 

[War Against Betaism]

Reading this takes me back to when I was in high school. I was exactly like this; girls told me I was arrogant or ****y, David DeAngelo told us this is what we were aiming for, though realize later on that his book wasn't meant for high school. Don't become a nice guy, don't become a jerk. Instead, become a leader. I always try to model myself as if I was leading a tribe 10 000 years ago; all my decisions I imagine myself as that leader debating the best outcomes and results. Be nice to women, but be nice to yourself first.

 

[FirstInstinct]

I find you can be ****y, but you really need to up the funniness and genuinely show you're joking - and you can't get away with some of the ****ier statements. War Against Betaism's spot on, be a leader.