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alright. ive done a lot of reading through old posts regarding attention wh0res but i need some more specific input.
this is about a girl ive casually mentioned throughout some of my posts. we'll call her T. id been using her as a reference, as a girl who showers me with comfort, gifts and whatever else i ask for. ive been 'hanging out' with her casually for a month or two; things are starting to progress further than that but im a bit confused by her actions.
i see in her intimacy and compassion, something i am looking for in a girl. but what i dont know if she has yet is TRUST and LOYALTY. if things keep progressing, i need to know if i can trust her in a relationship.
here are the facts:
- from the get-go, at first meeting there was a -very- strong physical connection
- ive never been a supplicating fool. shes bought me clothes, drinks and a bunch of times shes bought food for me and brought it to my job, when i was starving. she goes out of her way for me - wed be hanging out at night, and shed say to me, "im going to buy you lunch tomorrow. what do you want me to bring you?" ive never bought her anything in return like a chump would; but im always sure to reward her in other ways that have more meaning than emotionless, impersonal gifts. like a full-body massage =)
- she treats me like a king. tying in to her behavior above, shes always willing to give me backrubs, massages or sexual treats. on top of that, she cooks for me, washes my clothes and stuff like that. shes a very compassionate girl; in touch with her feminine side and understands how and why to nurture and care for others.
- we have a lot in common. love the same music, movies, outdoor ****; we click in a way i dont feel with a lot of the other girls ive been with.
- i know how to push her buttons emotionally. i know that i could let her have a drink to relax, play a certain song, whisper a couple things in her ear, touch her in certain spots and then have her do anything i want.
- shes told me that she feels comfortable with me and could be open and share anything with me.
on the other hand...
- she is insecure and has self image issues.
- she smokes occasionally; and drinks a lot. she tends to drown her sorrows in booze. e.g. a couple weeks into hanging out, i ignored her for a day. not as in didnt call her, but ignored her to her face. wouldnt talk to her. i was just having a bad day but she thought i had ended what we started, and on top of that, wouldnt talk to her even as a friend. so she goes to our bar and gets absolutely ripped and starts crying.
- she loves to show off and flirt with other guys. loves to dress up and dance "slutty." a couple times, while we were hanging out together, shed flirt with another guy in front of me. the guy in question dated her in the past. hes a friend of mine.
- she has a few guy friends; all who have dated her briefly or at least want to get in her pants.
- we met eachother through work; ive quit that job, but while working together, while casually dating, id see her flirt with guys and give them the same signs of interest she sends me.
- i know that at least in the past, she gets bored easily and hasnt had a relationship over 2 months.
- she SAYS that im the only guy whos brought her as close to orgasm as ive had. she says she hadnt even orgasmed on her own. i know this to be at least somewhat true, because i know some of her exes and they have confided in me that after starting to get intimate, shed always stop them. the guy in question is a bud of mine and wouldnt need to lie to me about this. shed tried to stop me a couple times, but i kept pressing and eventually open her up.
some of the above can be excused because we arent exclusive. i know to wait for the girl to propose that. i also know that its a two way street, and i am free with a lot of other girls too. but i just wanted to put the facts out there.
also worth noting, as far as sex goes, weve done everything except full intercouse. lots of freaky stuff, too; ive been having a ton of fun with her in the bedroom. and the shower... kitchen.. living room.. like i said, ive (according to her) brought her as close as shes ever been, and she always tells me how amazing and wonderful our time is together. shes told me that ive done things with her, and to her, that nobody else has ever done before. we have this interesting connection where we bring a special side out of eachother; we bring out eachothers deepest, most secretive fantasies and truely enjoy turning them into reality.
and she has never cancelled or flaked on me.
like i said, im confused. imo a lot of things are framed good, such as how she treats ME like a king, and i dont supplicate to her. also how ive already seen her in her most vunerable moments, that jar her insecurity issues. shes opened up and exposed a lot to me. a lot that she might normally prefer to keep to herself, to save possible embarassment.
what do you think , guys?
-SLB
this is about a girl ive casually mentioned throughout some of my posts. we'll call her T. id been using her as a reference, as a girl who showers me with comfort, gifts and whatever else i ask for. ive been 'hanging out' with her casually for a month or two; things are starting to progress further than that but im a bit confused by her actions.
i see in her intimacy and compassion, something i am looking for in a girl. but what i dont know if she has yet is TRUST and LOYALTY. if things keep progressing, i need to know if i can trust her in a relationship.
here are the facts:
- from the get-go, at first meeting there was a -very- strong physical connection
- ive never been a supplicating fool. shes bought me clothes, drinks and a bunch of times shes bought food for me and brought it to my job, when i was starving. she goes out of her way for me - wed be hanging out at night, and shed say to me, "im going to buy you lunch tomorrow. what do you want me to bring you?" ive never bought her anything in return like a chump would; but im always sure to reward her in other ways that have more meaning than emotionless, impersonal gifts. like a full-body massage =)
- she treats me like a king. tying in to her behavior above, shes always willing to give me backrubs, massages or sexual treats. on top of that, she cooks for me, washes my clothes and stuff like that. shes a very compassionate girl; in touch with her feminine side and understands how and why to nurture and care for others.
- we have a lot in common. love the same music, movies, outdoor ****; we click in a way i dont feel with a lot of the other girls ive been with.
- i know how to push her buttons emotionally. i know that i could let her have a drink to relax, play a certain song, whisper a couple things in her ear, touch her in certain spots and then have her do anything i want.
- shes told me that she feels comfortable with me and could be open and share anything with me.
on the other hand...
- she is insecure and has self image issues.
- she smokes occasionally; and drinks a lot. she tends to drown her sorrows in booze. e.g. a couple weeks into hanging out, i ignored her for a day. not as in didnt call her, but ignored her to her face. wouldnt talk to her. i was just having a bad day but she thought i had ended what we started, and on top of that, wouldnt talk to her even as a friend. so she goes to our bar and gets absolutely ripped and starts crying.
- she loves to show off and flirt with other guys. loves to dress up and dance "slutty." a couple times, while we were hanging out together, shed flirt with another guy in front of me. the guy in question dated her in the past. hes a friend of mine.
- she has a few guy friends; all who have dated her briefly or at least want to get in her pants.
- we met eachother through work; ive quit that job, but while working together, while casually dating, id see her flirt with guys and give them the same signs of interest she sends me.
- i know that at least in the past, she gets bored easily and hasnt had a relationship over 2 months.
- she SAYS that im the only guy whos brought her as close to orgasm as ive had. she says she hadnt even orgasmed on her own. i know this to be at least somewhat true, because i know some of her exes and they have confided in me that after starting to get intimate, shed always stop them. the guy in question is a bud of mine and wouldnt need to lie to me about this. shed tried to stop me a couple times, but i kept pressing and eventually open her up.
some of the above can be excused because we arent exclusive. i know to wait for the girl to propose that. i also know that its a two way street, and i am free with a lot of other girls too. but i just wanted to put the facts out there.
also worth noting, as far as sex goes, weve done everything except full intercouse. lots of freaky stuff, too; ive been having a ton of fun with her in the bedroom. and the shower... kitchen.. living room.. like i said, ive (according to her) brought her as close as shes ever been, and she always tells me how amazing and wonderful our time is together. shes told me that ive done things with her, and to her, that nobody else has ever done before. we have this interesting connection where we bring a special side out of eachother; we bring out eachothers deepest, most secretive fantasies and truely enjoy turning them into reality.
and she has never cancelled or flaked on me.
like i said, im confused. imo a lot of things are framed good, such as how she treats ME like a king, and i dont supplicate to her. also how ive already seen her in her most vunerable moments, that jar her insecurity issues. shes opened up and exposed a lot to me. a lot that she might normally prefer to keep to herself, to save possible embarassment.
what do you think , guys?
-SLB