"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Who feels that the users of this forum should be able to vote on:

1. Mods - whether or not they should get to continue their service

2. Which threads should remain locked, should a Mod lock a thread

3. Who should remain banned should a Mod ban someone

That is for starters.

I have seen several locked threads that I would like to post in. If this forum is a dictatorship, then it should be titled as such: "SoControlled: The Don Juanshwitz Forum."

This forum would be SoUseless without people posting here. We the posters are the true owners of this site. Mods, like government should consult us, The Council, before making any final decisions.

There are some younger guys posting here, but none of us are little children who cant make decisions for ourself. If it is voted that a thread remain open or a person remain active, it should be the choice of the community. Just say no to Modzi's

Power to the Posters :flowers:
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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There is a really stupid mod on here who's been pissing me off lately. I don't know who he is. He has his as* for a brain. Just ban me already, this is weird. grrr....
 

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Then he should be brought up on charges. I second the motion. :cuss: :D
 

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I personally have not had any problems with the mods or having any threads closed.

Maybe the reason topics get closed is because they erupt into flame wars? I'm 17 and I think alot of the arguments that some guys start here are ridiculous.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Wow Dongfu you're really salty about that locked thread of yours aren't you. I personally don't think it should've been locked. And I also think threads about race that are strictly in regard to picking up girls of that race should never be locked. I don't think "looks" threads should be locked either. Just because some people can't handle the facts or the truth doesn't mean they shouldn't be discussed among those you can.
 

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To answer the question, as long as it's a privately run board it's whatever the owner says it is. Those not happy can always vote with their feet.
 

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You can always go over to loveshack.org.
 

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It would be hard to vote on anything, especially since some people would inevitably figure out a way to vote multiple times. As at any business, we vote by continuing to use the service.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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The only person who scares me is the guy named "Crazy Asian". He seems like the type of guy to shoot up a mall or school with a bulletproof vest.
 

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lol I'm surprised this thread hasn't been closed yet.
 

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ketostix said:
Wow Dongfu you're really salty about that locked thread of yours aren't you. I personally don't think it should've been locked. And I also think threads about race that are strictly in regard to picking up girls of that race should never be locked. I don't think "looks" threads should be locked either. Just because some people can't handle the facts or the truth doesn't mean they shouldn't be discussed among those you can.
A little salty, maybe :) But as I mentioned, there are many locked threads that I have had an interest in posting in.

I was sincerely interested in guys experiences with women, both foreign and domestic. Would there be another way to word the thread so that it would not be inappropriate for this site. If nothing else, Mods should temporarily lock a thread, PM you what the issues are, then allow you the opportunity to modify the thread so it wont be problematic. That's not too much to ask
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Vice said:
Maybe the reason topics get closed is because they erupt into flame wars? I'm 17 and I think alot of the arguments that some guys start here are ridiculous.
So then allowing potentially raced based threads will draw out the Flamers, then we can vote them out.
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
You can always go over to loveshack.org.
I'll leave if I'm voted out. You don't really pay that good of attention for a Mod. :whistle:
 

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Dongfu said:
I'll leave if I'm voted out. You don't really pay that good of attention for a Mod. :whistle:
ROFL... he has 2 rep bars... I've never seen that before haha.
I'm gonna agree with him cause of that :p
 

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the mods are very idiotic with their selection of what threads to lock. Look at this example:

I made a thread 2 weeks ago with very helpful advice, and it just so happened to have the WORD "looks" in it, despite not being about looks.........and it got locked within a day or two. Heres the link to it:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=135076


then, I keep seeing these looks threads pop up on Anything else, and the mods right after banning my non-looks thread, end up allowing a blatant stupid looks thread to stay up. Examples:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=136049
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=134451
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=130138

and this one was allowed to stay open for 10 days!!

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=135110
 

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This forum is not a democracy. Someone owns this forum who delegates who gets to be a mod. Just like if someone you don't like is in your house, you can kick them out. Stop complaining about this or leave the forum.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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