Is this dude a chump when it comes to relationships?

[Travel memoir21]

Okay he’s a great guy and an Afghanistan combat Veteran….but I just think he’s an idealist when it comes to relationships. What do you guys think? Here’s a quote from him when it came to a particular woman and here’s his meme about her.

‘I think one of the things that she used to get frustrated about is that I’d never initiate sex, even if I didn’t shy away from intimacy. I wanted her to know she was in complete control of that aspect of our relationship, because I wanted her to get a feel for her own agency and autonomy—her ability to make decisions and say yes or no. For me, it really wasn’t at all about the sex. It was because she made me feel alive again just by looking at me the way she did. Where everyone else held nothing but contempt in their eyes for me, hers were full of wonder. I could tell she really loved me.’

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Give me a fvcking break with this...

Tell that man to get his Testosterone level checked.

 

[Mike32ct]

Some nice guys “overcorrect.” It’s not uncommon.
Sometimes they have a father (or brother or other male figure) who was a player/bad boy type or possibly abusive. But what the nice guy “sees” is a hyper sexual sleazy bastard to women. And the nice guy unconsciously or consciously decides “I’m never gonna be like him. I’m going to respect women.” And, despite good intentions, the nice guy takes it so far that he forgets that women have a sexual side too.

 

[The Duke]

This is a guy who doesn't understand women very well. A woman wants to feel desired. Its a basic need. A man initiating sex makes her feel valued and desired. She will think something is wrong with her when you don't. It's also why they like men who take the lead. Its what healthy masculine men do.

Feminine women don't want to make all the decisions, they don't want autonomy.

Women are turned on by men who go after what they want. Its pretty much universal.

@Travel memoir21 your approach towards dating is similar. You see these girls as someone you want to talk to and approach slowly with out any sexual desire towards them. They will detect this quickly and see you as weak and put you in the friend zone if you ever get that far.

 

[Travel memoir21]

This is a guy who doesn't understand women very well. A woman wants to feel desired. Its a basic need. A man initiating sex makes her feel valued and desired. She will think something is wrong with her when you don't. It's also why they like men who take the lead. Its what healthy masculine men do.

Feminine women don't want to make all the decisions, they don't want autonomy.

Women are turned on by men who go after what they want. Its pretty much universal.

@Travel memoir21 your approach towards dating is similar. You see these girls as someone you want to talk to and approach slowly with out any sexual desire towards them. They will detect this quickly and see you as weak and put you in the friend zone if you ever get that far.

lol…so you’re saying you can’t be a good Christian man and be confident, suave and manly at the same time? I highly disagree.

 

[The Duke]

lol…so you’re saying you can’t be a good Christian man and be confident, suave and manly at the same time? I highly disagree.

Nope. But You use it as an excuse. I do have a few stories about wholesome Christian girls that read the bible every day.

 

[Bigpapa]

Okay he’s a great guy and an Afghanistan combat Veteran….but I just think he’s an idealist when it comes to relationships. What do you guys think? Here’s a quote from him when it came to a particular woman and here’s his meme about her.

‘I think one of the things that she used to get frustrated about is that I’d never initiate sex, even if I didn’t shy away from intimacy. I wanted her to know she was in complete control of that aspect of our relationship, because I wanted her to get a feel for her own agency and autonomy—her ability to make decisions and say yes or no. For me, it really wasn’t at all about the sex. It was because she made me feel alive again just by looking at me the way she did. Where everyone else held nothing but contempt in their eyes for me, hers were full of wonder. I could tell she really loved me.’

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that’s what happens when you put a woman on a pedestal

Really bad idea

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Nope. But You use it as an excuse. I do have a few stories about wholesome Christian girls that read the bible every day.

Yeah me too...the preacher's daughter who did every nasty thing under the sun in the bedroom but acted like a wholesome good girl that was a virgin outside of it.

 

[BadBoy89]

He wasn't attracted to her and doesn't want a girlfriend, he wants a mother.

When a guy is attracted to girl and lusts for her, he acts differently. 100% he will push for sex. When a guy acts like above? He wants someone to "take care" of him.

 

[Travel memoir21]

He wasn't attracted to her and doesn't want a girlfriend, he wants a mother.

When a guy is attracted to girl and lusts for her, he acts differently. 100% he will push for sex. When a guy acts like above? He wants someone to "take care" of him.

He’s not on good terms with his mother

 

[plumber]

i get the idea of the post. and i get what that man in the story is thinking. its sad because he has the best intentions and so on.... he will learn the hard way that it does not work and the world and women do not behave as he thinks they do.

Game78 has the exact right idea. 99% chance man has a chemical issue in his body. she can not be attracted to him if he does not behave like a healthy man. how the man in the story thinks is wrong, the exact opposite is exactly right. very sad because he really believes and really wants to do the right thing. he just doesn't know what the right thing is.