"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is this creepy? Friending a girl I know on Facebook and asking her out

way2smart

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So, there's this girl at work which works on the same floor. We don't work on the same team, but different parts of the building on the same floor.

I have met her during the halloween event. She is always nice to me and I think her interest level maybe high enough for me to ask her out. The problem is I don't know her phone number.
I usually bump into her about once a week, but I didn't get a chance to ask for her phone number.

However I know her first and last name and I could easily find her and Facebook and message her there to set up a date. But is this creepy? Finding somebody on the Facebook and adding them as a friend and them asking them out on a date?

We do chat whenever we bump into each other, it's not like we are complete strangers though. From her body language I do feel like she has high interest. However adding her on Facebook may kill some level of mystery about me.

What should I do? Add her on Facebook, message her and ask her out, or make extra effort to get her phone number in person? But I may not have a chance to ask for her phone number for another week or 2.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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narcissist

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Stay away from women from work is my initial response.

But if you really are inclined towards her then just find a way to ask her out in person.
 

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So, there's this girl at work which works on the same floor. We don't work on the same team, but different parts of the building on the same floor.

I have met her during the halloween event. She is always nice to me and I think her interest level maybe high enough for me to ask her out. The problem is I don't know her phone number.
I usually bump into her about once a week, but I didn't get a chance to ask for her phone number.
What do you mean you didn't get a chance? It takes 7.8 seconds to ask.

However I know her first and last name and I could easily find her and Facebook and message her there to set up a date. But is this creepy?
150% creepy. It's strange how men are afraid of face to face rejection from a girl who has had sex 18 different ways from Sunday with different athletes, but not email.

What should I do? Add her on Facebook, message her and ask her out, or make extra effort to get her phone number in person? But I may not have a chance to ask for her phone number for another week or 2.
Bro by the time you figure out "what to do" she is already married and pregnant. Next time you see her ask her out. Don't ask her on facebook, she will show it to her 6'1 boyfriend to get more jewelry from him.
 

Skyline

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Just get her phone number dude.

Women usually seek you out on social media if they're interested anyways.
 

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If a girl on FB is interested there is no denying it. The other night I ran into a 19 year old prom queen who knew the names of my girlfriends from FB. And she did not say no. I call her my high school sweetheart because she graduated high school last year.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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