Is This Common?

[TheWayOfAllFlesh]

If you see a girl around somewhere every now and then you find attractive/cute and would like to approach and you spend most of your spare time thinking about how much you would like to/could do it.

Then when you see her again either all the interest seems to drain away or your too nervous to do anything about it

 

[Nutz]

It is common. It's part of oneitis.

 

[Furyguy]

This used to happen to me. I hated it.

Just make yourself do it. You'll feel better about yourself even if it goes really bad. Don't approach trying to get into her pants, just try to make a new friend. Be happy and upbeat and eject quickly.

You can do it man, give it a shot.

 

[Metacomet]

I worked as a dishwasher once and got constant eyes from the waitresses. One of them I was dead-set on asking out...

Well, as Nutz said, I developed an acute sense of one-itis. Not a huge crush - but I thought about her exclusively enough that it made it impossible to approach. To this day I wonder how awesome t1tty fvcking her could have been.

It's all part of the learning process eh?

I've found it's a million times easier to get numbers and dates off girls you have just met instead of ones that float around in your head all day.

Peace

 

[djinhell]

Too true. Oneitis really sucks. But I beleive its something we all encounter at least once in our lives, and then we learn from it and dont allow it to happen again. (my oneitis wasted over a year of my life!!!!)

 

[nismo-4]

Si Senor!

It's called Oneitis. You're gonna get your feelings hurt. You should take action early. Like I say, strike while the iron's hot!

 

[TheWayOfAllFlesh]

Ahh right. So looks liek either way im gonna get screwed over...if she rejects me I'll feel like crap but I can;t seem to approach in the first place so its a double edged sword really

 

[DonGorgon]

If you see a girl around somewhere every now and then you find attractive/cute and would like to approach and you spend most of your spare time thinking about how much you would like to/could do it.

Then when you see her again either all the interest seems to drain away or your too nervous to do anything about it

Yup cause you know you will probably fail so your confidence is low and you convince yourself you dont want her anymore... very common male reality..

 

[TheWayOfAllFlesh]

Yup cause you know you will probably fail so your confidence is low and you convince yourself you dont want her anymore... very common male reality..

youve hit the nail on the head i think...what do you mean my common male reality though?

 

[DonGorgon]

...what do you mean my common male reality though?

its the reality of most modern men. having to compete with many men for overly picky women who a quick to reject takes its toll on male confidence

 

[TheWayOfAllFlesh]

its the reality of most modern men. having to compete with many men for overly picky women who a quick to reject takes its toll on male confidence

fair doos. its even worse when you cant approach yet you know not other people would consider her as attractive as you do