"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is This Common?

TheWayOfAllFlesh

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If you see a girl around somewhere every now and then you find attractive/cute and would like to approach and you spend most of your spare time thinking about how much you would like to/could do it.

Then when you see her again either all the interest seems to drain away or your too nervous to do anything about it
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Nutz

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It is common. It's part of oneitis.
 

Furyguy

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This used to happen to me. I hated it.

Just make yourself do it. You'll feel better about yourself even if it goes really bad. Don't approach trying to get into her pants, just try to make a new friend. Be happy and upbeat and eject quickly.

You can do it man, give it a shot.
 

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I worked as a dishwasher once and got constant eyes from the waitresses. One of them I was dead-set on asking out...

Well, as Nutz said, I developed an acute sense of one-itis. Not a huge crush - but I thought about her exclusively enough that it made it impossible to approach. To this day I wonder how awesome t1tty fvcking her could have been.

It's all part of the learning process eh?

I've found it's a million times easier to get numbers and dates off girls you have just met instead of ones that float around in your head all day.

Peace
 

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Too true. Oneitis really sucks. But I beleive its something we all encounter at least once in our lives, and then we learn from it and dont allow it to happen again. (my oneitis wasted over a year of my life!!!!)
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Si Senor!

It's called Oneitis. You're gonna get your feelings hurt. You should take action early. Like I say, strike while the iron's hot!:up:
 

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Ahh right. So looks liek either way im gonna get screwed over...if she rejects me I'll feel like crap but I can;t seem to approach in the first place so its a double edged sword really
 

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TheWayOfAllFlesh said:
If you see a girl around somewhere every now and then you find attractive/cute and would like to approach and you spend most of your spare time thinking about how much you would like to/could do it.

Then when you see her again either all the interest seems to drain away or your too nervous to do anything about it

Yup cause you know you will probably fail so your confidence is low and you convince yourself you dont want her anymore... very common male reality..
 

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DonGorgon said:
Yup cause you know you will probably fail so your confidence is low and you convince yourself you dont want her anymore... very common male reality..
youve hit the nail on the head i think...what do you mean my common male reality though?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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TheWayOfAllFlesh

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DonGorgon said:
its the reality of most modern men. having to compete with many men for overly picky women who a quick to reject takes its toll on male confidence
fair doos. its even worse when you cant approach yet you know not other people would consider her as attractive as you do
 
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