what da fvck...
i don't get it.
I hit it off okay last week with a chick from my school..she's a HB9. I had the usual ****iness going, and negs...but i couldn't tell what her interest level was and as a result, i didn't # close (slap!)...i know, i know...should have done that right away, but something didn't feel right.
Anyway, i got to school today knowing that i was going to chat it up again and go for the # close. Our class got switched, so her and i ended up getting to school 1 1/2 hours early. She said "hi" as she entered the room, and began to show me her bruised knee. She went out drinking the night before and couldn't remember how she got it...I of course started to make a slight "sexual" joke about it...she laughed. Anyway I didn't want to hang around, so i asked her if she wanted to go for a drink before class.
We ended up going to a restaurant and having a couple beers. I negged her a few times and tried keeping the convo about her...this is what i found out:
-She went to Vegas on the weekend to visit her ex...who happens to be in jail.
RED LIGHT!!!
They are/have been together for 2 years. She kept changing what she called him...first it was her "ex", then her "BF", then her "ex". As soon as she started to talk about him...i immediatly started to change the subject. I also dissed him a bit. Apparantly when he gets out of jail, he's going to move here to LA...
SHE BEGAN TO TALK ABOUT HIM AS HER "EX" BF, BUT EVEN MENTIONING HIM IS A DISS, NO?
-she asked me if i had a GF. I am single, but i was pretty vague on the answer. She also asked now that i'm new in the city, if i've met people here, and said, "yeah", and suggested we hook up sometime. The response i got from her was "yeah we should". But it was more of a "yeah whatever" vibe...i didn't get any sense of her being intrested...
DISS????
-she moved to LA because she was getting herself in trouble in Vegas...lots of drinking (vodka) and partying. Sounded like she was an alcoholic. She also mentioned that it was technically her fault the her BF is in jail. She moved here to start over, but still goes out to party.
YIKES!!
-we got into a casual sex convo, which involved her revealing she's had a 3-way. She also revealed that she always goes brazillian, and she just got lazer hair removal done. She showed me her arm, and i applied the necesary kino (hee hee), lightly rubbing her arm to feel how smooth it was. I also mentioned that most guys don't know what they are doing when it comes to sex...she agreed.(i figure a comment like this would get her thinking that I KNOW what i am doing...which i do of course
)
ALL VERY NICE
-she complained about how almost every guy she's been with
tells her that they are in love with her within a few weeks. i took advantage of that, and dissed those guys, stating that they were
pussies (normally i wouldn't use that terminology, but the way the convo was going i figured it was okay)
NICE AGAIN
-the class we were about to go to shows some introductory massage techniques. I told her how i studied massage for 1 year and mentioned/joked that my hands were like "fine instruments"...She then gave me a "jerking off" motion with her arms, as she NEGGED ME...she then took a drink of her beer and commented, "we'll see".
HMMMM
-she said she gets along better with guys then with girls, and I negged her a bit throughout the convo, talked about her hair colour, and mentioned that she should try going a light brown, than blonde, as thought it would look cooler. There was actually a bit of negging back and forth. Whole convo was about 1 1/2 hrs.
At the end of it all, we made tentative plans to hook up tomorrow at school to do a review before class. I would have preferred to do her...i mean the REVIEW at my place, but there is only 1 hr. between classes.
When we got to class she rolled up her pants again and showed me her bruise...i applied the necessary kino. She started negging ME again, so (jokingly), i called her a bytch. It was obviously a joke, but she came back with, "you call me a bytch again, and you are going to fuking feel it!"
WTF?????!!!!!!!
So all of a sudden, i feel like a COMPLETE A$$HOLE...thinking that all the negging i've been doing on this HB9 has created an OPPOSITE EFFECT!!!! Maybe she was taking the negging seriously???
Anyway, after that i didn't want to # close AT ALL!!!! I actually felt really sh1tty, like i was a complete d1ck, and then got pi$$ed off at myself thinking i should cut my losses. The main reason why closing AGAIN didn't feel right is that i felt NO connection WHATSOEVER!!!! I COULD NOT READ HER AT ALL!!! Sure we were talking about sex and we were both pretty open about stuff, but i think that's just her and my personality.
The only good thing about the day is that another guy from class asked how it is that i know all the women in the school. He commented that he was usually really shy around girls, and joked about he should hang out with me more...at least the DJ skills are paying off somewhere!
Is this chick a head case? Do i cut my losses and back off completely? Or is that a bad thing? i dunno, part of my doesn;t even care whether or not i talk to her at all...but that could be just be a overreaction to the days events.
ANY advice or thoughts would be awesome...
i don't get it.
I hit it off okay last week with a chick from my school..she's a HB9. I had the usual ****iness going, and negs...but i couldn't tell what her interest level was and as a result, i didn't # close (slap!)...i know, i know...should have done that right away, but something didn't feel right.
Anyway, i got to school today knowing that i was going to chat it up again and go for the # close. Our class got switched, so her and i ended up getting to school 1 1/2 hours early. She said "hi" as she entered the room, and began to show me her bruised knee. She went out drinking the night before and couldn't remember how she got it...I of course started to make a slight "sexual" joke about it...she laughed. Anyway I didn't want to hang around, so i asked her if she wanted to go for a drink before class.
We ended up going to a restaurant and having a couple beers. I negged her a few times and tried keeping the convo about her...this is what i found out:
-She went to Vegas on the weekend to visit her ex...who happens to be in jail.
RED LIGHT!!!
They are/have been together for 2 years. She kept changing what she called him...first it was her "ex", then her "BF", then her "ex". As soon as she started to talk about him...i immediatly started to change the subject. I also dissed him a bit. Apparantly when he gets out of jail, he's going to move here to LA...
SHE BEGAN TO TALK ABOUT HIM AS HER "EX" BF, BUT EVEN MENTIONING HIM IS A DISS, NO?
-she asked me if i had a GF. I am single, but i was pretty vague on the answer. She also asked now that i'm new in the city, if i've met people here, and said, "yeah", and suggested we hook up sometime. The response i got from her was "yeah we should". But it was more of a "yeah whatever" vibe...i didn't get any sense of her being intrested...
DISS????
-she moved to LA because she was getting herself in trouble in Vegas...lots of drinking (vodka) and partying. Sounded like she was an alcoholic. She also mentioned that it was technically her fault the her BF is in jail. She moved here to start over, but still goes out to party.
YIKES!!
-we got into a casual sex convo, which involved her revealing she's had a 3-way. She also revealed that she always goes brazillian, and she just got lazer hair removal done. She showed me her arm, and i applied the necesary kino (hee hee), lightly rubbing her arm to feel how smooth it was. I also mentioned that most guys don't know what they are doing when it comes to sex...she agreed.(i figure a comment like this would get her thinking that I KNOW what i am doing...which i do of course
)ALL VERY NICE
-she complained about how almost every guy she's been with
tells her that they are in love with her within a few weeks. i took advantage of that, and dissed those guys, stating that they were
pussies (normally i wouldn't use that terminology, but the way the convo was going i figured it was okay)
NICE AGAIN
-the class we were about to go to shows some introductory massage techniques. I told her how i studied massage for 1 year and mentioned/joked that my hands were like "fine instruments"...She then gave me a "jerking off" motion with her arms, as she NEGGED ME...she then took a drink of her beer and commented, "we'll see".
HMMMM
-she said she gets along better with guys then with girls, and I negged her a bit throughout the convo, talked about her hair colour, and mentioned that she should try going a light brown, than blonde, as thought it would look cooler. There was actually a bit of negging back and forth. Whole convo was about 1 1/2 hrs.
At the end of it all, we made tentative plans to hook up tomorrow at school to do a review before class. I would have preferred to do her...i mean the REVIEW
at my place, but there is only 1 hr. between classes.When we got to class she rolled up her pants again and showed me her bruise...i applied the necessary kino. She started negging ME again, so (jokingly), i called her a bytch. It was obviously a joke, but she came back with, "you call me a bytch again, and you are going to fuking feel it!"
WTF?????!!!!!!!
So all of a sudden, i feel like a COMPLETE A$$HOLE...thinking that all the negging i've been doing on this HB9 has created an OPPOSITE EFFECT!!!! Maybe she was taking the negging seriously???
Anyway, after that i didn't want to # close AT ALL!!!! I actually felt really sh1tty, like i was a complete d1ck, and then got pi$$ed off at myself thinking i should cut my losses. The main reason why closing AGAIN didn't feel right is that i felt NO connection WHATSOEVER!!!! I COULD NOT READ HER AT ALL!!! Sure we were talking about sex and we were both pretty open about stuff, but i think that's just her and my personality.
The only good thing about the day is that another guy from class asked how it is that i know all the women in the school. He commented that he was usually really shy around girls, and joked about he should hang out with me more...at least the DJ skills are paying off somewhere!
Is this chick a head case? Do i cut my losses and back off completely? Or is that a bad thing? i dunno, part of my doesn;t even care whether or not i talk to her at all...but that could be just be a overreaction to the days events.
ANY advice or thoughts would be awesome...