You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
what, so Pudzianowski isn't alpha at all?jeffthechef said:
muscles don't make you an alpha..that's a childish definition..muscles don't define who you are and can definitely cover up any deficiencies..and it works on people like youCaptain Harlock said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
who said it's about just the muscles? The guy's been the strongest man 5 times, 6 if they didn't exclude him for testing positive on coke (which is pretty ridiculous because everyone is on dope at these competitions). You don't become a 5 time champion when you're not alpha.jeffthechef said:
Yes, I've always said that. Guys think if they walk and stand like a perked-up Stallion, women are going to fawn over them, until they realize it doesn't work that way. My natural posture of walking and standing is like that of a perked-up Stallion, and at first, I used to think it would help me out in the game, but little did I realize, it would actually do sh*t for me. Again, it's not about how you look(most women could seriously care less), it's about making them "feel"(your game), as well as other factors.jeffthechef said:
yes it does. You don't beat the competition by having a beta mindset. The fact alone that he is the number one strongest man in the world means he's alpha.jeffthechef said:
As a photographer, the only thing I would say is that you should be standing up straight or leaning back slightly. Because you are sort of bending down slightly to your right, it draws the attention away from your chest and toward the gap between your body and the girl's. The way a masculine pose should look is for the guy to be standing naturally and the girls orienting themselves on either side to look the best. In short, its typically the females responsibility to change her pose to accommodate the male, not the other way around.spinaroonie said:
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Not quite, it depends how you are crossing your arms... If you're just crossing them, then it means you have a closed atitude, and that's all that it means. If you're crosing your arms but kind of holding them in a type of self-hug, then that means you're feeling insecure. Psychologist say that that's because as a kid our mothers used to hug us in this way when we were feeling bad, and that's the "adult" version of it. Curious thing huh?jeffthechef said:
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Neg-repped (8 times over) for that!!!! How would you guys those women, on the scale of 1 to 10? I'm not hating, just stating facts. My point was he'd likely get more credit from other women if the women on his arm were better looking. Apologies to OP if he took offense.fertileTurtle said:
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.