She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
what, so Pudzianowski isn't alpha at all?jeffthechef said:
muscles don't make you an alpha..that's a childish definition..muscles don't define who you are and can definitely cover up any deficiencies..and it works on people like youCaptain Harlock said:
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
who said it's about just the muscles? The guy's been the strongest man 5 times, 6 if they didn't exclude him for testing positive on coke (which is pretty ridiculous because everyone is on dope at these competitions). You don't become a 5 time champion when you're not alpha.jeffthechef said:
Yes, I've always said that. Guys think if they walk and stand like a perked-up Stallion, women are going to fawn over them, until they realize it doesn't work that way. My natural posture of walking and standing is like that of a perked-up Stallion, and at first, I used to think it would help me out in the game, but little did I realize, it would actually do sh*t for me. Again, it's not about how you look(most women could seriously care less), it's about making them "feel"(your game), as well as other factors.jeffthechef said:
yes it does. You don't beat the competition by having a beta mindset. The fact alone that he is the number one strongest man in the world means he's alpha.jeffthechef said:
As a photographer, the only thing I would say is that you should be standing up straight or leaning back slightly. Because you are sort of bending down slightly to your right, it draws the attention away from your chest and toward the gap between your body and the girl's. The way a masculine pose should look is for the guy to be standing naturally and the girls orienting themselves on either side to look the best. In short, its typically the females responsibility to change her pose to accommodate the male, not the other way around.spinaroonie said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Not quite, it depends how you are crossing your arms... If you're just crossing them, then it means you have a closed atitude, and that's all that it means. If you're crosing your arms but kind of holding them in a type of self-hug, then that means you're feeling insecure. Psychologist say that that's because as a kid our mothers used to hug us in this way when we were feeling bad, and that's the "adult" version of it. Curious thing huh?jeffthechef said:
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Neg-repped (8 times over) for that!!!! How would you guys those women, on the scale of 1 to 10? I'm not hating, just stating facts. My point was he'd likely get more credit from other women if the women on his arm were better looking. Apologies to OP if he took offense.fertileTurtle said:
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.