"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Is this Alpha or Beta Behavior?

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This is one of my favorite scenes in any movie

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wrmVTWtlpd8

In the movie, the woman (CATHERINE KEENER) who he (Jason Patric) is talking to is this scene has been an absolute ***** to one of his friends (Ben Stiller).

Jason Patric then gives her a pretty good beatdown when she denies his advances. If you watch it within the context of the film, this was well deserved.

So, the way he told her off - is this Alpha or Beta?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Without knowing anything about what she did before to him/his friend(s), he seems neither alpha or beta, but a psycho.
 

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^yes.

Why would he ask her out in the first place?

If she was a royal b1tch to one of his friends, then he should withdraw his attention from her. i.e. by NOT asking her out. Simple as that. Tell his friend to avoid her, and he should do the same.

So, in this instance, he seemed to handle it like a Beta, IMO.
 

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The girl is married to one of his friends. The girl also cheats on his friend with another woman in some exploratory lesbian affair. The guy in the scene is fed up with her behavior (because she is a total wench in the film), and lays into her.

Interesting responses so far.
 

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expos said:
The girl is married to one of his friends.
Didn't know that, but, he came across as if he wanted to go on a date with her, like he wanted to bang her. If he wanted to lay in to her, then what was the point of acting interested, and trying to get a cup of coffee with her? What if she would have said yes? Then what would have been his next move?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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GettinMyMindRight said:
Total Sigma.

He didn't give a fvck what she thought of him.
Actually, by that clip, it seemed like he did. He turned on her only when she turned him down. He was not aloof, his reaction seemed to be a result to her actions.

All this "withdraw your attention" stuff...I don't get it.

If you don't pay her any attention, you are guaranteed to get nowhere.

At least if you act a little edgy with her, you've a chance at hot sex with a crazy chick.

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Why would he want to get anywhere with a chick who treated his friend like she did? (not to mention, I guess, she was currently married to him)

You can pay her attention until she proves to not be deserving of your attention. Then you take it away. Much worse than "letting her have it." Which chicks actually like. ----> It's a display that they have the ability to effect your emotions, which shows they have a power over you.
 

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expos said:
The girl is married to one of his friends. The girl also cheats on his friend with another woman in some exploratory lesbian affair. The guy in the scene is fed up with her behavior (because she is a total wench in the film), and lays into her.
First glance, alpha until she negs and walks away. He was not in a hurry to move things along at this point if social circle.

Given the context he just wanted to rip into her from the beginning and had no interest at all.
 
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