"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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having a corvette, motorcycle, boat, nice condo or house, being a bachelor....and just living life for the moment in Miami, or Hawaii somewhere near the beaches...driving the corvette down the road on a hot sunny day listening to reggae music and sipping on a slurpee........this will be my reality soon to come.

taking vacations to other countries, meeting new people, new girls, new cultures, new places....having fun like sky diving in australia or dune buggying in dubai or snowboarding in canada down some nice mountains...and you repeat this every year because you can...because we are free animals...we have no one else to worry about because we are young and no one is here to stop us beside ourselves. Being young and single is great.

if you have your life straight with goals in mind and a passion for what you want to do in life, great things will happen.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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its not for millionaires a person who makes 70-80k a year being single can still do this.
 

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Lol

JJ109 said:
having a corvette, motorcycle, boat, nice condo or house, being a bachelor....and just living life for the moment in Miami, or Hawaii somewhere near the beaches...driving the corvette down the road on a hot sunny day listening to reggae music and sipping on a slurpee........this will be my reality soon to come.

taking vacations to other countries, meeting new people, new girls, new cultures, new places....having fun like sky diving in australia or dune buggying in dubai or snowboarding in canada down some nice mountains...and you repeat this every year because you can...because we are free animals...we have no one else to worry about because we are young and no one is here to stop us beside ourselves. Being young and single is great.

if you have your life straight with goals in mind and a passion for what you want to do in life, great things will happen.
GL with all that on 75k a year bud....................Let us know in a few years how this is working out for you.

:D
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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How many people in the US wished they'd have skipped a vacation or 2 and kept the house? IF you can save 10-20% of your income on that lifestyle,go ahead. MY goal is to have the same income retired as I do working
 

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How many people in the US wished they'd have skipped a vacation or 2 and kept the house? IF you can save 10-20% of your income on that lifestyle,go ahead. MY goal is to have the same income retired as I do working
We are in the end times stop saving your money and enjoy life don't be a tight wad. You are not going to be alive 10 years from now or even 3.
 

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wtf does this have to do with being in alpha. if you equate alpha with being in debt to any and everyone than yes sure.


lmao, it sounds like you are describing the into to grand thief auto
 

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f283000 said:
We are in the end times stop saving your money and enjoy life don't be a tight wad. You are not going to be alive 10 years from now or even 3.
I swear to god, next time I hear someone repeat this bull**** to me I'm going to just punch them straight in the face. I have to put up with this for another 3 years don't I?

To answer the thread, it doesn't make me think "Alpha", but it is definitely living the good life. If you can do these things whilst maintaining a good professional life then I'd suggest going for it!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You are equating personal happiness with material possessions. Some people seek spiritual fulfillment rather than material gain.
The OP DJ didn't mention "spititual fulfillment". However Dude... It's a material world. When we go to college, get a job, and climb the corporate ladder... it isn't directly for "spiritual fulfillment". It's for getting the kind of nice things the OP described.

eg: a HB has a choice between 2 men...

a) A rich batchelor who drives a vet, has a great job, vacations in Vegas, Bermuda, other countries, and has a gorgeous home, and lots or material things in life.

or...

b) A attendent in the mens room, who is spiritually fulfulled with his meager life.

Tough choice huh? Does anyone think the HB is gonna say" I want to have my baby with that spiritually fulfilled mens room custodian!! LOL
 

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Joe Stud said:
The OP DJ didn't mention "spititual fulfillment". However Dude... It's a material world. When we go to college, get a job, and climb the corporate ladder... it isn't directly for "spiritual fulfillment". It's for getting the kind of nice things the OP described.

eg: a HB has a choice between 2 men...

a) A rich batchelor who drives a vet, has a great job, vacations in Vegas, Bermuda, other countries, and has a gorgeous home, and lots or material things in life.

or...

b) A attendent in the mens room, who is spiritually fulfulled with his meager life.

Tough choice huh? Does anyone think the HB is gonna say" I want to have my baby with that spiritually fulfilled mens room custodian!! LOL
my mom would. in a heartbeat.


but the guy is not right, in the sense that, it has nothing to do with spiritually but material wealth does not make you anymore of an alpha than being an aFC it just means you have ****.

the two do not coincide.
 

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having an old ford ranger, bycicle, no boat, nice apartment, being a bachelor....and just living life for the moment in south LA, or any other decent place, anywhere in the world...driving the ranger down the road on a hot sunny day listening to reggae music and sipping on a slurpee........this could be my reality soon to come.

If that doesn't make you happy, then it's clear where your goal is.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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JJ109 said:
its not for millionaires a person who makes 70-80k a year being single can still do this.
Yeah, I was going to say the same. You don't need to make globs of money to do this stuff. Travel is not as expensive as people think. Now if you're talking about staying in five star hotels everywhere you go, sure, you need some serious scratch. But hell, I've traveled abroad for 2 months at a time sleeping in hostels for next to nothing. To me the value is in the experience, not the accommodation.

Any guy making $100,000/year can buy a corvette or a condo. Now when you buy that villa in Aix-en-Provence, then you can start bragging.
 

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JJ109 said:
having a corvette, motorcycle, boat, nice condo or house, being a bachelor....and just living life for the moment in Miami, or Hawaii somewhere near the beaches...driving the corvette down the road on a hot sunny day listening to reggae music and sipping on a slurpee........this will be my reality soon to come.

taking vacations to other countries, meeting new people, new girls, new cultures, new places....having fun like sky diving in australia or dune buggying in dubai or snowboarding in canada down some nice mountains...and you repeat this every year because you can...because we are free animals...we have no one else to worry about because we are young and no one is here to stop us beside ourselves. Being young and single is great.

if you have your life straight with goals in mind and a passion for what you want to do in life, great things will happen.
All that on 70-80k per year? You must not know the true cost of things. Have you any clue how much a condo costs in Miami? How about the property taxes on that condo? You'll be spending close to your entire income on just paying your mortgage, taxes, and utilities on your house/condo. Not to mention your corvette, motorcycle, and boat. Do you have any clue how much it costs just to get to Dubai? I have friends who are single and making more than 100k per year and couldn't afford to live that lifestyle.
 

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JJ109 said:
having a corvette, motorcycle, boat, nice condo or house, being a bachelor....and just living life for the moment in Miami, or Hawaii somewhere near the beaches...driving the corvette down the road on a hot sunny day listening to reggae music and sipping on a slurpee........this will be my reality soon to come.

There's nothing "alpha" about this. Any weakling with a big bank account can buy your dream.

I think any lifestyle where you're in charge of things is "alpha". You could be a farmer making $50k per year, but if that's what makes you happy, then I respect that more than some miserable investment banker shoveling coke up his nose every weekend, and buying random crap to prove his "alpha-ness".

Just look at it this way. If any d-bag with money can buy your dream, then you're dreaming about the wrong things.
 

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Joe Stud said:
The OP DJ didn't mention "spititual fulfillment". However Dude... It's a material world. When we go to college, get a job, and climb the corporate ladder... it isn't directly for "spiritual fulfillment". It's for getting the kind of nice things the OP described.

eg: a HB has a choice between 2 men...

a) A rich batchelor who drives a vet, has a great job, vacations in Vegas, Bermuda, other countries, and has a gorgeous home, and lots or material things in life.

or...

b) A attendent in the mens room, who is spiritually fulfulled with his meager life.

Tough choice huh? Does anyone think the HB is gonna say" I want to have my baby with that spiritually fulfilled mens room custodian!! LOL

If both guys have equal confidence, equal physical good-looks, and equal wit and humor, then yeah, she goes for the rich one.

But in all honesty, I have quite a few hippie friends who do 100x better with women than my corporate friends. These guys just know how to talk to girls....talk to everybody, really...and make you feel comfortable. And they're not on some big spiritual trip, they just kinda live the lives they WANT to live, rather than the lives that the dictionary would define as "successful."

People seem to equate money with confidence. But money is just a possession. All kinds of people have it. It certainly doesn't hurt your prospects of getting women, but confidence, charm, and friendliness will get you more women. The rich kids might find one hot woman and marry her, but the "funner" guys are out banging a variety of hot women and not being slaves to the corporate world for 60 hours per week.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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