You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
It has long since been debated about whether or not an action is AFC, and if it is, whether or not it will interfere with your path to Don Juan nirvana.
Now, some actions are obviously AFC and should be avoided:
-calling several times a day
-bringing flowers to the first date
-being clingy and desperate
-having "one-itis"
-etc.
Now, what I'm trying to get across is the fact that although certain actions are AFC, you should not be too concerned if an action is AFC or not. The problem that many newbies have is that they see the AFC dillemma in only black or white. They place each action into each category, and make much dileberation of the whole affair. Given how many actions one can do, it gets ridiculous to categorize everything.
Rather, what I've figured out is DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT! As long as you are doing the right things, you cannot come across as AFC.
These Right things are known as
1. Confidence
2. Challenge
3. Attitude
I call these three attributes the three pillars of Don Juan, for it is this three that holds up the rest. Without these three pillars, the rest of the system would come crashing down on you because these thre attributes are what makes it all happen.
As long as you remain confident, be a challenge, and have ther right attitude, nothing will be able to stop you. A True Don Juan does not worry if a smal linsignifigant action is AFC, he instead considers the big things. The little "AFC-or-not?" things do not hold up the Don Juan philosophy, it is the three pillars that do.
So I must ask you to consider, my friend, what is it that suports your game? Are you one of those who worry about whethewr or not everything is AFC? If so, you must add some pillars quickly, or your whole game will collapse out from under you. Or are you like me, your game being solidly supported by three gleaming tall pillars of Confidence, Challenge, and Attitude?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.