"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is this a time to NEXT?

B-Real

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I have been flirting with this girl at work for about 2 weeks off and on. We'd usually just text message each other silly things to make us laugh.

Well she had a boyfriend at the time and they have been together for a long time. Well she told me today that they broke things off. So I thought to myself that this is a good sign (for me anyway) to move in.

So I told her that she is too young to be tied down and she should play the field a little while she still can. She said "yeah your right."

A few hours had passed and I was getting really bored and anxious so I texted her and asked her if she wanted to go out sometime. But here is the deal. She told me she still loves whats-his-name and she just doesn't want anything to do with any boys right now at all.

So I'm thinking NEXT and not look back. Even if she does decide she wants to try it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Sounds to me it's time for you to get a new job, she is gonna tell every girl at work you want her behind. When you hear lots of giggling, that's what they are talking about. But don't sweat, just walk up to them and poke them in the eyes..
 

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B-Real said:
I have been flirting with this girl at work for about 2 weeks off and on. We'd usually just text message each other silly things to make us laugh.

Well she had a boyfriend at the time and they have been together for a long time. Well she told me today that they broke things off. So I thought to myself that this is a good sign (for me anyway) to move in.

So I told her that she is too young to be tied down and she should play the field a little while she still can. She said "yeah your right."

A few hours had passed and I was getting really bored and anxious so I texted her and asked her if she wanted to go out sometime. But here is the deal. She told me she still loves whats-his-name and she just doesn't want anything to do with any boys right now at all.

So I'm thinking NEXT and not look back. Even if she does decide she wants to try it.
If she wants to try it, try it. If not, next her.

Warning... company ink is bad for your shirt.
 

B-Real

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yes I know, but I'm not wanting to sit around and wait. I beleive I have already given her a fair enough chance. I'm definately not gonna call her anymore.
 

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B-Real said:
yes I know, but I'm not wanting to sit around and wait. I beleive I have already given her a fair enough chance. I'm definately not gonna call her anymore.
Yeah, i'd just flirt around and game some other chicks outside of work.

If she figures that she is missing out, well, it's in your power to decide whether to be nice or not and give her the chance to have some fun.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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