"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Is this a subtle hint or what? lol

arutha

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So this girl I know (my ex actually) mentions a show on next week and says it would be good and she'd really like to go, it just comes up in conversation, then I ask why she doesn't go and she says not enough money, but if she had enough she would go.

Heh, she knows for a fact that I have plenty of money. Anyway, not really sure why I'm posting this, I don't really need advice on it, I just found it an interesting thing that happened to me today.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Actually now I think about it maybe this isn't entirely useless... I need to think of a subtle way to mention this to the girl I'm interested in now, that I'm being cracked onto by others. Thats supposed to spark more interest right?
 

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damn sometimes i wish i was smooth enough to get girls to take me out to shows for free in hopes of getting to maybe touch my sexy body!:D usually that only happens for the girl though.

to me it sounds like this girl wants to take her ex that still has feelings for her for a ride. i'd test her out by asking her to do something that was completely free.
 

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Eh? Don't quite get most of that..

But asking her somewhere free would be a good way to test her, what are some good sort of free things to do?

Ah thats just for interests sake, I'm not really interested in her anymore anyway.
 

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Lol, so she decides she is sick of the subtlety and decides to ask me bluntly if I want to go with her.. But of course I would still need to pay and figure out how to get there lol.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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