"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is this a sign of interest or should I just let it go?

sapphire

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I met this girl (8.0) about a year ago at the gym. Decent face. Awsome body. She has a flirty personality almost that of a sunshine girl in that she acts all friendly with some of the guys who follow her around like clueless AFC's. No doubt she likes the attention.

One day I had the nerve to approach her and ask for her number mistaking her friendly behavior as genuine interest. She gave me some BS excuse that I don't even remember and to make the long story short, I was shot down. Since then, I would only say hello from afar and she would do the same taking care not to give her much attention as the other guys.

Well since then, I notice that she would always use the stairmaster right next to me and initiate a friendly conversation as I am working out. I figure that she may just be an AW trying to boost her ego by getting me to validate her existence since I have distinguished myself from her male entourage and not paid much attention to her.

Now fast forward 5 months. Today I ran into her after not going to that particular gym for 5 months and again I find her initiating a conversation as I am workout at the stairmaster. This time she tells me things like where I have been all this time and how I am doing, why I have not been going to the gym, etc.

My question is whether the fact that she noticed that I have not been going to the gym is a sign that maybe she may be genuinely interested (perhaps thinking of me?)and not playing games. Bear in mind that the gym I go to is quite large and I have never been part of her entourage for her to notice whether I had been away.

I figure if a chick is not interested she probably would not notice let alone care whether or not I am going to the gym. Or am I overanalyzing the situation?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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LikRetsam

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No it's not a sign of interrest.
 

Barbillus

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Read the DJ BIble.

What you need to do is get her number and ask her out that will be a true test of interest. If she says no, then find another girl.
 
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