"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is this a "next"?

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This is a set-up by a buddy who thinks me & this woman would be perfect together. She's a single mom, which I'm not wild about.

I cut short a very awkward 1st phone convo with a suggestion that we reduce the weirdness factor by moving it to the real world--i.e. coffee date after work next monday. I got the infamous definite-maybe-with-callback-to-verify, & we all know what that means. With a cold pickup, it means 1 chance in 1000 that you will ever go on that date. But this is not a cold pickup. Does that change anything?

Is this worth 1 more call next week, or is it NEXT! time? I have 2 more dates this week, so it's not like I'm terribly worried. But I'm one of these revenge-oriented types who's apt to use the power of NEXT! frivolously, so I wanted to get a sanity-check from the experienced DJ's.

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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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penkitten

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dude give the single mother a chance to find a sitter and collect her thoughts.

if you dont hear from her in about a week, then check her off as a next.

you jump the gun too fast.
 

Smooth Player 056

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give her a call next week make a date........now the ball is in her court. Id give her a chance.




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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Johnnie5

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as per penkitten , single moms gotta organise babysitters

gotta plan thinsg ahead , most single moms arent looking for a father replacement , just omeone to hang out with and have a real life with

enjoy it while you can and dont promise anything you dont want to deliver
 
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