"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is this a mistake?

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A friend of mine was telling me about when, a couple of months ago, he was driving on an interstate with his girlfriend on the passenger seat and she was complaining that he was going too slow. He said that he couldn't accelerate because he was at the speed limit and didn't want to have a ticket/risk an accident. So his girlfriend called him a pvssy and said that her ex boyfriend went 10x faster than he did because he wasn't afraid to get arrested.

So my friend started to accelerate past the speed limit because he was afraid that the girl would get mad, but then he slowed down quickly because he didn't want to get arrested and he kept apologizing like crazy when the girl called him a pvssy again.

Anyway, the girl dumped him shortly after.

IMO, I'm not too sure what the guy could have done... so, I'm asking this: if I ever find myself in that kind of situation, what should I do? Accelerate to make the girl happy and risk being arrested or stay below the speed limit and get called a pvssy?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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His mistake was actually giving into her in the first place.

So my friend started to accelerate past the speed limit because he was afraid that the girl would get mad...
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If he was a self-confident man, he would have stood his ground and ignored her insults. And he sure as hell wouldn't give a damn about her getting mad or apologize to her.
 
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Originally posted by electro shock
IMO, I'm not too sure what the guy could have done... so, I'm asking this: if I ever find myself in that kind of situation, what should I do? Accelerate to make the girl happy and risk being arrested or stay below the speed limit and get called a pvssy?
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Neither of those two. Stop the car, open the door and show her the way.
 
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Look, who wants to have a girlfriend like that? He must be glad that she is out of his life. If i was that friend you mentioned i would go over the speedlimit and then while driving pushing her out of the car.
Don't concern about such things. You don't need such girl. You deserve better.

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Originally posted by electro shock
A friend of mine was telling me about when, a couple of months ago, he was driving on an interstate with his girlfriend on the passenger seat and she was complaining that he was going too slow. He said that he couldn't accelerate because he was at the speed limit and didn't want to have a ticket/risk an accident. So his girlfriend called him a pvssy and said that her ex boyfriend went 10x faster than he did because he wasn't afraid to get arrested.

So my friend started to accelerate past the speed limit because he was afraid that the girl would get mad, but then he slowed down quickly because he didn't want to get arrested and he kept apologizing like crazy when the girl called him a pvssy again.

Anyway, the girl dumped him shortly after.

IMO, I'm not too sure what the guy could have done... so, I'm asking this: if I ever find myself in that kind of situation, what should I do? Accelerate to make the girl happy and risk being arrested or stay below the speed limit and get called a pvssy?
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WTF? If my gf did that to me, I'd slow down to BELOW the speed limit just to spite her until she apologized. If she still kept on, I'm dumping her ass. He should have stood up for himself.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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No kidding... although I never would find myself in that position in the first place since I go around 5-10mph over, on average. Face it, the speed limit is just a little to slow... however, it sounds to me like the girl wasn't that interested in him to begin with - if she was she wouldn't be picking fights about things like how fast he does/doesn't drive. I'm in agreeance with some of the others - go as fast as you feel comfortable doing... and do it because you want to, not because someone else is pressuring you into it.
 
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Originally posted by diablo
No kidding... although I never would find myself in that position in the first place since I go around 5-10mph over, on average. Face it, the speed limit is just a little to slow....
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They purposely set the speed limit below what the road engineers recommend as a safe limit.... to make money.

There have been incidences where when they raise the speed limit on a road the accident rate goes down.
 
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Re: Re: Is this a mistake?

Originally posted by arlanda
Neither of those two. Stop the car, open the door and show her the way.
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That's the spirit!
 
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You guys are all braindead if you think she dumped him because of how he drives.
 
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Originally posted by locarius
You guys are all braindead if you think she dumped him because of how he drives.
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And you're braindead if you think that's why we think he was dumped.

Fool.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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