"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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is this a good response?

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this young HB is annoying me with her high school games and just got a new number, im going back to uni for a postgrad course and she just starting out. i already met her once last week and she's from facebook.

i sent her this message just now pretty much negging her and telling her that we have nothing in common but i'll give her another opportunity to impress me and told her to leave me her new number then i blocked her so she couldn't reply to the message.

she proceeds to text me 'what a message! hello' from her new number.. i dont recognise it.. should i respond with 'who is this? if this is (insert another name of a girl) i told you it's too late.. you had your chance and you blew it.'

is this likely to backfire? i just thought it be pretty funny.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So you're tired of her playing games yet you're dealing the same thing. If you're thinking of a reply that wont backfire I would with the who is this?
 

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well tit for tat.. she isn't really playing games per se.. just not showing me much interest.

what is the likely response to that? i thought it might work cos it mentions of another girl.. although would she react to it in a manner of 'ok he's seeing more than one girl? a$$hole')
 

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So you're saying you want to get back at her because she's not showing you any interest?
 

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Could work well or it could flop hard. I've tried jokes over texts with varying success. It's hard to sense the joking tone. Proceed with caution!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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to me, it sounds like you're trying too hard. Try this, "Hey name of other girl, you're a nut. Stop texting me."
 

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it's too late now cos (3 hours later) she texts me from her old number: 'i cant reply to u on facebook cos of your privacy settings. add me. also the number i texted you off earlier is the new one.'

unless i pretend i've deleted her old number as well (i actually did as well lol) and respond in the same manner?

should i just play dumb cos she hasn't said anything that would identify her in her messages?

i dont know why shes suddenly showing such interest (if u can call it that..) i reckon she just wants me to add her to friends on facebook just so that she can show her other 1st year friends that 'oh this is the 24 year old guy who's after me.. hehe'
 

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you are trying WAYYY to hard. if she went through enough trouble to text you from her new number and then do it from her old number it seems like shes interested??? stop taking it further with the games.
 

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so i'm wrong.. she's not interested?

she's young.. naive.. a teenager.. i can't take what she does seriously. it just seems i'm regaining some power although if i take too long to reply she may flip it back on me and withdraw herself from the situation leaving me to chase her again.

obviously i should have more plates but i dont unfortunately..
 

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russian2 said:
you are trying WAYYY to hard. if she went through enough trouble to text you from her new number and then do it from her old number it seems like shes interested??? stop taking it further with the games.
on a side note, you're russian i presume from your name.. i got a question for you.. do you find russian chicks generally are quite difficult cos of the customs they've been brought up in are very different from the western expectations?

i've dated a few russian chicks and some of the tactics and rules on sosuave don't work at all.. i.e. the paying issue (i know in your culture the man is always expected to pay) but in sosuave it tells u that the woman should at least offer and not expect u to pay.. but in russian culture the woman will look poorly/unfavorably on you if you do not pay.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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drift king said:
so i'm wrong.. she's not interested?

she's young.. naive.. a teenager.. i can't take what she does seriously. it just seems i'm regaining some power although if i take too long to reply she may flip it back on me and withdraw herself from the situation leaving me to chase her again.

obviously i should have more plates but i dont unfortunately..
The thing you have to remember about girls, especially the younger ones, is that they crave attention. Even if they're not attracted to you they'll keep you around if they know that they can use you in that regard whenever they need an ego boost.
 

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sadora said:
The thing you have to remember about girls, especially the younger ones, is that they crave attention. Even if they're not attracted to you they'll keep you around if they know that they can use you in that regard whenever they need an ego boost.
that makes sense, so what should i do?

i'm refraining from replying yet and it's late here so i'm going to bed. although i feel as if i should reply in the morning with something.

maybe to make arrangements.. maybe to say 'ok i'm still waiting for you to offer an evening this week and consequently i'll reserve a time for you' (my initial facebook message touched on the give me an evening and i'll reserve a time for you, im busy etc)
 
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