"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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is this a good response?

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this young HB is annoying me with her high school games and just got a new number, im going back to uni for a postgrad course and she just starting out. i already met her once last week and she's from facebook.

i sent her this message just now pretty much negging her and telling her that we have nothing in common but i'll give her another opportunity to impress me and told her to leave me her new number then i blocked her so she couldn't reply to the message.

she proceeds to text me 'what a message! hello' from her new number.. i dont recognise it.. should i respond with 'who is this? if this is (insert another name of a girl) i told you it's too late.. you had your chance and you blew it.'

is this likely to backfire? i just thought it be pretty funny.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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So you're tired of her playing games yet you're dealing the same thing. If you're thinking of a reply that wont backfire I would with the who is this?
 

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well tit for tat.. she isn't really playing games per se.. just not showing me much interest.

what is the likely response to that? i thought it might work cos it mentions of another girl.. although would she react to it in a manner of 'ok he's seeing more than one girl? a$$hole')
 

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So you're saying you want to get back at her because she's not showing you any interest?
 

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Could work well or it could flop hard. I've tried jokes over texts with varying success. It's hard to sense the joking tone. Proceed with caution!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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to me, it sounds like you're trying too hard. Try this, "Hey name of other girl, you're a nut. Stop texting me."
 

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it's too late now cos (3 hours later) she texts me from her old number: 'i cant reply to u on facebook cos of your privacy settings. add me. also the number i texted you off earlier is the new one.'

unless i pretend i've deleted her old number as well (i actually did as well lol) and respond in the same manner?

should i just play dumb cos she hasn't said anything that would identify her in her messages?

i dont know why shes suddenly showing such interest (if u can call it that..) i reckon she just wants me to add her to friends on facebook just so that she can show her other 1st year friends that 'oh this is the 24 year old guy who's after me.. hehe'
 

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you are trying WAYYY to hard. if she went through enough trouble to text you from her new number and then do it from her old number it seems like shes interested??? stop taking it further with the games.
 

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so i'm wrong.. she's not interested?

she's young.. naive.. a teenager.. i can't take what she does seriously. it just seems i'm regaining some power although if i take too long to reply she may flip it back on me and withdraw herself from the situation leaving me to chase her again.

obviously i should have more plates but i dont unfortunately..
 

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russian2 said:
you are trying WAYYY to hard. if she went through enough trouble to text you from her new number and then do it from her old number it seems like shes interested??? stop taking it further with the games.
on a side note, you're russian i presume from your name.. i got a question for you.. do you find russian chicks generally are quite difficult cos of the customs they've been brought up in are very different from the western expectations?

i've dated a few russian chicks and some of the tactics and rules on sosuave don't work at all.. i.e. the paying issue (i know in your culture the man is always expected to pay) but in sosuave it tells u that the woman should at least offer and not expect u to pay.. but in russian culture the woman will look poorly/unfavorably on you if you do not pay.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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drift king said:
so i'm wrong.. she's not interested?

she's young.. naive.. a teenager.. i can't take what she does seriously. it just seems i'm regaining some power although if i take too long to reply she may flip it back on me and withdraw herself from the situation leaving me to chase her again.

obviously i should have more plates but i dont unfortunately..
The thing you have to remember about girls, especially the younger ones, is that they crave attention. Even if they're not attracted to you they'll keep you around if they know that they can use you in that regard whenever they need an ego boost.
 

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sadora said:
The thing you have to remember about girls, especially the younger ones, is that they crave attention. Even if they're not attracted to you they'll keep you around if they know that they can use you in that regard whenever they need an ego boost.
that makes sense, so what should i do?

i'm refraining from replying yet and it's late here so i'm going to bed. although i feel as if i should reply in the morning with something.

maybe to make arrangements.. maybe to say 'ok i'm still waiting for you to offer an evening this week and consequently i'll reserve a time for you' (my initial facebook message touched on the give me an evening and i'll reserve a time for you, im busy etc)
 
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