"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is this a blow off?

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So, I walk out of a bank and just a few meters away I see a plate I last saw a month ago, looking as lovely as ever,walking across the street.
I call out her name, she looks over and stops.
We were heading to the same direction so we walked together.(background info: We only met once before, at her workplace as a friend works there too. I opened her direct and left without her number as I thought it would be useless since I hadn't run enough comfort/ no rapport, besides I knew where to find her again but as you now obviously know I never made an effort to find her owing to the fact that I didn't care much).

So we walk a few steps and this SUV with government registration plates (she works there)slows down, the driver calling out her name and signals her to get in.Get in she did. I'm not sure if there's scant consolation in the fact that she said"We'll catch up later" as she left.
Now I want that poon even more.Damn it!

Is there any alpha way I was supposed to react to the incident on the spit? Can I redeem myself or I'm I reading too much into this?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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RangerMIke

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Not enough information. It doesn't matter, you have her number call and make a date, if she flakes and cancels you have you answer.
 

marmel75

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I am not convinced that she's a plate. You have somewhat of a connection to her, but there's no sex nor is there any solid romantic interest ever indicated. I would just simply keep my eye on other women. It would be hot though if she were a spy.
I have no idea how he considers her a "plate". A "plate" is a woman you are fvcking on the regular that isn't your girlfriend. Seeing some chick once and talking to her without even getting her number doesn't make her a "plate".

But I guess that's what this board is devolving into...I talked to a girl once at her job and didn't get her number...definite "plate".

LMFAO....
 

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I have no idea how he considers her a "plate". A "plate" is a woman you are fvcking on the regular that isn't your girlfriend. Seeing some chick once and talking to her without even getting her number doesn't make her a "plate".

But I guess that's what this board is devolving into...I talked to a girl once at her job and didn't get her number...definite "plate".

LMFAO....
Agreed. Dudes on here are rating chicks too high. Trying to go from meet, to date, to sex all via texting, and now they're claiming that women are plates that they haven't even held hands with, let alone f*cked. Cats really need to show dudes how it's done.
 

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Agreed. Dudes on here are rating chicks too high. Trying to go from meet, to date, to sex all via texting, and now they're claiming that women are plates that they haven't even held hands with, let alone f*cked. Cats really need to show dudes how it's done.
Relax guys! I'm new here.Since I joined I've always thought a plate is just any girl I talk with the intention of getting into her pants. Guess I sinned.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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She's not a plate unless you're f**king.

I should fine you for unauthorized use of a pedestal. AKA you care too much.

There's not enough evidence to rule this as a blow off. How about you call her and see if she goes with you. The following actions will tell all.

Case closed.
 
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