"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Is this a bad thing??

Comeback kid

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Today i kind of cheated, because i didn't feel i had what it took to be a DJ. My situation was that i wanted to talk to a girl who sat at a table with 4 other friends. So i was standing behind her 2 other friends at line and i talked to them and asked them if they could be friendly if i talked to 1 of their friends. Well they were very friendly about it, they got my name and 1 invited me over to sit at the table(which i was hesitant about at 1st). But i did sit over there. Turns out the girls wern't so scary as i thought. The girl i was interested in didn't seem to be interested in me though, i tried to start a conversation by talking about a friend of hers. i read something on here about fidning common ground and talking about people you both know. But she said she was no longer friends with that person and didn't want to talk about then she went back to chatting with the other girls, then she left to go somewhere. But 1 of the other girls said i could sit there anytime i wanted to and she looks good so idk. I was thinking, maybe this can help me be a bit more comfortable with talking to girls, but is this a bad thing though??? Cause i know this probably doesn't live up to DJ standards.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Tenzen

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doesn't seem to bad but ur in the friends zone with these chicks automatically.
 

Tenzen

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lol don't give up already, having these chicks as ur friends can lead to u being alone with them to talk. Make your moves then.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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miniPIMPIN

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Comeback kid said:
Well, i guess the whole "Dj" thing just doesn't work for me then.
dont expect to be a master at it on your first few tries. take baby steps. u gotta gain experience. which will require lots of rejections.
 
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