"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Is there such a thing as waiting too long to call?

decentguy

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I know to wait at least 4 or 5 days before calling a girl.
I got a girl's phone number about 10 days ago and intend on calling her today. I've known her for a bit and she has shown interest in me.

Is there a point at which her interest level starts to go down if you wait too long to call her?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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djinhell

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This whole phone game thing is so fragile. Most people on this board will say the longer u leave it the better...but I still feel that if theres a good vibe with the chick, its fine to call her much earlier!

Problem with ten days is it gives enough time for any flame ignited to die down.

good luck though!

Dj In Hell
 

StevenR

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I waited a couple days after a first date with a kiss close on my current gf before calling her again, and we have discussed this since we became serious. She told me that if I had waited any longer she would have thought I had lost interest and moved on. Don't call her like a few hours after, but IMO waiting 10 days and she isn't even going to remember who you are. I would say optimally 1-3 days but of course every woman and interaction is probably different.
 

decentguy

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I've known her for 4 months so I doubt she will forget who I am ;-)
Couldn't get with her because I had a girlfriend but now I'm single.
 

StevenR

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It dosen't hurt to try then. I wouldn't wait any longer if it has already been 10 days.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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