Is there such a thing as having a d1ck that is too big?

[Hamurabimbi]

With younger, less experienced women, they tend to get sore for the first couple of times having sex. After that her and I are used to each other. The other problem is with short women and going in too deep and hitting their cervix. I've had one that loved it, and two said it was painful.
I'm glad I brought this thread up since it's giving me some ideas about what to do in the future.

my current is 5’0” & no cervix complaint. My ex- was 5’5” & complaned of cervix pain.

 

[Murk]

Coconut oil is best imo rather than marketed lubes but to each his own…

I use a water-based lube I found on amazon which is great but I lost it and started using coconut oil and I think it might be better

 

[The Duke]

I use a water-based lube I found on amazon which is great but I lost it and started using coconut oil and I think it might be better

I prefer to keep it classy, always have a can of Crisco sitting on the night stand.

 

[Murk]

I prefer to keep it classy, always have a can of Crisco sitting on the night stand.

I was a spit man up until 2 years ago, true story.

 

[Hal9000]

Taking your time really is important. I've had women that never enjoyed anal tell me that they finally understood how it could be because I took my time and didn't just slam it up in there like the other guys they'd tried it with. Perhaps the number one rule for better sex with women is "slow down".

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Taking your time really is important. I've had women that never enjoyed anal tell me that they finally understood how it could be because I took my time and didn't just slam it up in there like the other guys they'd tried it with. Perhaps the number one rule for better sex with women is "slow down".

Not an ‘anal’ guy. But women I’ve been with tend to want me to put it in right away. I’ve had a few who were big on fingering (oddly all White). And a few who wanted to do like a 5 min BJ (I guess that got them super horny) warmup. But most wanted it it in asap. I like to spend a lot of time on the boobs.

 

[FlirtLife]

Most of us have had situations in which women say things like “omg you fk like a porn star” or “omg I feel like I’ve never had sex before!” or “I’ve never come so much!” or some such comment that makes us feel special.

Sexual skill has degrees, and I'd guess "most of us" are below that peak performance. Personally I peg myself (ow) as somewhere above average to good - not great. Which is relevant to ...

Often, the only way you’ll receive any valuable data is if they continue to pursue. This can be immediately and continuous or could be 2-3 years later. Many of us also have had the experience of having a lover from our past circle back and say “it’s never been the same since you - you’re the only one that xxx”. In this case you know you either widowed her or she is remembering the way you made her feel that time in the past.

Sex and alpha widows are separate categories that can overlap. Good sex has brought ex-girlfriends back for me. They moved on, and weren't alpha widows. Most alpha widows in my life were from flirting and desire, without sex. Maybe off topic for the thread, but alpha widows are possible with and without sex (at least "good sex" - it's possible great sex produces more alpha widows).

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

As any woman who is being honest (and not just into straight hydraulics) will tell you: the best lovers have both physical skills and the ability to create the environment in which she can let herself go. Once you’ve proven yourself worthy in the physical realm (and consistently deliver that) it truly doesn’t matter if you’re subpar from time to time, they always are imprinted with “he’s the bomb”, and remember all encounters as amazing.

Yes, skill is important and can be a massive differentiator in most situations but given the number of women who have stayed in relationships with subpar sex for decades speaks to the importance or other emotional factors.

It’s layered, emotional and physical. If you can pull of things like making her orgasm by licking her nipples alone or just penetration (that instant you’re in her completely and she orgasms), or just being inside her without movement just looking in her eyes and she cuts one loose, you know you’ve hit the holy grail.

Size is truly only relevant in a very few situations, as long as you’re at least average. It doesn’t hurt to be above average as it’s a force multiplier, but the emphasis many men put on size is truly out of proportion, so to speak.

 

[characternote]

How difficult is s3x? How difficult is going back and forth, different positions, kissing, telling them naughty things, choking, slapping, spitting.

People think s3x is some mythical thing.

exactly. People overcomplicate it so much and desperately want people to think they have some secret 'skill' that others don't know about that makes them 'good in bed' lol. Literally every guy i've ever spoken too about sex claims to be amazing in bed.
I remember a while back some dude on reddit was bragging about how amazing in bed he is because he's old and knows all kinds of 'tricks' that young guys don't. After much badgering and questioning from ppl on the thread, he eventually revealed his 'secret' was that girls have things called cl1ts that they like having licked! Something all 13 year old boys know nowadays!
I cringed.

Have a decent sized c0ck. Be able to last a decent amount of time. Kiss, dirty talk and take control, and you can also claim to be a 'sex God' if you so desire.