Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Not true, I would say alot of my pickups actually picked me up. I don't know how or why it happens but it does. During my first yr of uni, girls 3-13 probably picked me up.Jitterbug said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Most of my "experience" is with chicks at work. I was spared the scary part of approaching but got very good at just basically doing nothing and having the girls chase after me and fight over me and be all dramatic (good kind) and me not doing anything. All incoming. It's happening again right now but no, chicks and work don't mix.KontrollerX said:
Does that mean I'm advanced WOOT :woo:KontrollerX said:
For the most part this is true, but if your just looking for a ONS, what does it matter if she knows what she wants. Calling a women a slvt is exactly like a bully, its done by someone with LSE to put the other person down to make themselves feel better.Tear Gas said:
Unless you are the BIG CATCH, then they will come to you.Tear Gas said:iplus girls need a lot of confidence to approach guys, and there's not many girls that have that confidence..if you want the big catch, you gotta make the first move, then let her work from there
even if you are the BIG CATCH, at most you'll notice women eyeing you regulary, getting constant IOIs etc.. but you might get lucky and get approached by a hot quality chick that kinda tipsy and finally approached you, but are you just gonna sit back till that happens and let all the hot shy girls pass by?MacAvoy said:
at least make a move when you see a hot chick giving IOIs She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Gas,Tear Gas said:but are you just gonna sit back till that happens and let all the hot shy girls pass by?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
......you're in an isle looking at cans, and the girl will just conveniently come and stand a few feet from you, or pickup something right beside you...even if she really doesn't need it, she'll pretend like she does. That gives you an invitation to start a conversation with her.), and plenty of other places.....and usually it's the same girls who go to the club at night that are at these places during the day. Hey, you had a good post too that you're paying attention to those signs.....that's a much better way to start than to just do approaches like some other guys would. It really pays off to hone your observation skills. And the second most important thing is taking action when they like what they seereset said:
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.