"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Is there one definitive book that teaches you all the basic stuff?

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Like everything from approaching to what to wear on a date to kissing to cunniligus? Or do you have to read everything from authors like Xuma, Pilinski, etc. I've heard "How to Become an Alpha Male" by John Alexander covers everything, but I'd like to know that before I buy it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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the first book id advice any new guy to read would be the game, by neil strauss
Totally right. Then start with PU videos, go through Mystery Method just to get the technical know-how of a pickup. Then read forums and finally get your ass out there!
 

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Does the Game cover everything like I mentioned? Approaching, good kissing, good conversation, sex techniques, etc.? I just want one huge resource for all the stuff on dating.
 

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RazorAzoth said:
Does the Game cover everything like I mentioned? Approaching, good kissing, good conversation, sex techniques, etc.? I just want one huge resource for all the stuff on dating.
you want an easy out. News flash, you won't find it.

Do the work.
 

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When did I say I was looking for an easy way out? I simply asked if there is indeed one book that covers all the basic stuff instead of reading a bunch of them. I have no problem reading more than one book, just simply asking if there is one GOOD one before I read several.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Someone PMed me telling me the DJ Bible is exactly what I'm looking for.
 

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Seriously, this one. It helped me so much I made an entire thread about it. That book alone has done more for me then all the others combined. "The Game" by Neil Strauss is a fun read, but that's more of a story. It's not really about 'how to improve yourself', it's more a story about how f*cked up most of these Pickup Artists are.
 

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I quote myself

The thing about this book is that it doesn't learn you tricks. Those are all tricks you name there, and they are just that... What's different from this book is that it teaches you how to transform mentally. How to take on a different mindset. I benefitted much more from this then any other book I've read.

And by the way, I hardly ever stick feathers up someone's ass unless they really deserve it. And this book does.
 

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There is no one book that will teach you everything you need. If there were, don't you think you would've known about it by now?

There is however, a plethora of information available. Maybe you should search what your looking for rather than ask for an all in one. You'll probably get better results that way.
 

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I should've mentioned I have absolutely no aspirations or ambition to become a pick-up artist. I'm really just looking for a book that gives the basics of dating and sex stuff. Snowdog, I've heard that book is quite good.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yea, really check that one out. If you follow what's in there, it will improve your life in general as well. That book was the one that made me go out there and start the journal which is linked in my sig. Compare the first few posts with the last one and you'll understand how I changed already. Not there yet, but one hell of an improvement.
 

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carlos xuma nails it on the head. no gimmicks, fake stories. Its real word advice. best author I've read yet.
 

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No there is not "one definitive book".
 

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DJ Bible

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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