"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Is there one definitive book that teaches you all the basic stuff?

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Like everything from approaching to what to wear on a date to kissing to cunniligus? Or do you have to read everything from authors like Xuma, Pilinski, etc. I've heard "How to Become an Alpha Male" by John Alexander covers everything, but I'd like to know that before I buy it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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the first book id advice any new guy to read would be the game, by neil strauss
Totally right. Then start with PU videos, go through Mystery Method just to get the technical know-how of a pickup. Then read forums and finally get your ass out there!
 

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Does the Game cover everything like I mentioned? Approaching, good kissing, good conversation, sex techniques, etc.? I just want one huge resource for all the stuff on dating.
 

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RazorAzoth said:
Does the Game cover everything like I mentioned? Approaching, good kissing, good conversation, sex techniques, etc.? I just want one huge resource for all the stuff on dating.
you want an easy out. News flash, you won't find it.

Do the work.
 

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When did I say I was looking for an easy way out? I simply asked if there is indeed one book that covers all the basic stuff instead of reading a bunch of them. I have no problem reading more than one book, just simply asking if there is one GOOD one before I read several.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Someone PMed me telling me the DJ Bible is exactly what I'm looking for.
 

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Seriously, this one. It helped me so much I made an entire thread about it. That book alone has done more for me then all the others combined. "The Game" by Neil Strauss is a fun read, but that's more of a story. It's not really about 'how to improve yourself', it's more a story about how f*cked up most of these Pickup Artists are.
 

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I quote myself

The thing about this book is that it doesn't learn you tricks. Those are all tricks you name there, and they are just that... What's different from this book is that it teaches you how to transform mentally. How to take on a different mindset. I benefitted much more from this then any other book I've read.

And by the way, I hardly ever stick feathers up someone's ass unless they really deserve it. And this book does.
 

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There is no one book that will teach you everything you need. If there were, don't you think you would've known about it by now?

There is however, a plethora of information available. Maybe you should search what your looking for rather than ask for an all in one. You'll probably get better results that way.
 

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I should've mentioned I have absolutely no aspirations or ambition to become a pick-up artist. I'm really just looking for a book that gives the basics of dating and sex stuff. Snowdog, I've heard that book is quite good.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Yea, really check that one out. If you follow what's in there, it will improve your life in general as well. That book was the one that made me go out there and start the journal which is linked in my sig. Compare the first few posts with the last one and you'll understand how I changed already. Not there yet, but one hell of an improvement.
 

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carlos xuma nails it on the head. no gimmicks, fake stories. Its real word advice. best author I've read yet.
 

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No there is not "one definitive book".
 

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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