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Don Juan
OK, I'm still somewhat AFC right now.. but this guy really takes the cake in AFCness.. I'm not that great with telling stories so please bear with me.
I met this older friend in college when he was working on his MBA at the same school. He started dating this girl (my classmate) several years ago when she was still jailbait (she started college a few years earlier.) He was about 30 at the time and basically wanted to go the "friends" route to make this 16-17 year old girl his girlfriend. He went on several dates with her and did a lot of things with her (like studying, eating ,etc.) but nothing of a sexual or romantic nature ever. He saw her almost every day or at least every week during the first semester of her freshman year but they never went any further.
Fast forward 3 years later (now)..
She's now graduating but without any job prospects so she's contemplating moving home with her parents. He's also without a job despite finishing his MBA a year earlier (economy's a *****, I digress.) Although he's moved to another town to find a job, he's been constantly worrying about his "relationship" with this girl (if you can call it that.) Particularly, in recent months, he commented how he saw her facebook page and she's always talking about partying every weekend and posting pictures of the parties to her page; he's constantly worrying about how she might hook up with another guy and forget about him (yeah, those were his exact words.) One thing I found particularly disturbing is that he saved up ALL of her facebook pictures from up to 3 years ago. (She frequently deletes and changes her facebook pics but he saved all 100+ or so of them from over the last 3 years, much like how we might collect porn or something.)
I explained to him in detail how he shouldn't be calling her all the time and even showed him the DJ Bible; at least he accepted THAT and cut down to calling her about once a month. Every time before he calls her, he'd call ME first and would ask me to help him come up with a plan for almost every possible response that she'll give (i.e. "What should I do if she picks up and says she's busy?", "What should I do if she says I now have a BF?", "What should I do if she says she's worried about finding a job?", etc.)
Right now, if he pesters me about what he really needs to do to get this girl, I tell him straight up to forget about her and try other women (after hinting this about 100 times in the past already.) Unfortunately, he doesn't seem to even remotely want to consider this option.
Seeing how much trouble he's having with women even at his age (already in his 30's), I kinda feel sorry for my friend.. but at the same time, I feel sorry for my classmate who is probably completely creeped out by this guy by now.
I met this older friend in college when he was working on his MBA at the same school. He started dating this girl (my classmate) several years ago when she was still jailbait (she started college a few years earlier.) He was about 30 at the time and basically wanted to go the "friends" route to make this 16-17 year old girl his girlfriend. He went on several dates with her and did a lot of things with her (like studying, eating ,etc.) but nothing of a sexual or romantic nature ever. He saw her almost every day or at least every week during the first semester of her freshman year but they never went any further.
Fast forward 3 years later (now)..
She's now graduating but without any job prospects so she's contemplating moving home with her parents. He's also without a job despite finishing his MBA a year earlier (economy's a *****, I digress.) Although he's moved to another town to find a job, he's been constantly worrying about his "relationship" with this girl (if you can call it that.) Particularly, in recent months, he commented how he saw her facebook page and she's always talking about partying every weekend and posting pictures of the parties to her page; he's constantly worrying about how she might hook up with another guy and forget about him (yeah, those were his exact words.) One thing I found particularly disturbing is that he saved up ALL of her facebook pictures from up to 3 years ago. (She frequently deletes and changes her facebook pics but he saved all 100+ or so of them from over the last 3 years, much like how we might collect porn or something.)
I explained to him in detail how he shouldn't be calling her all the time and even showed him the DJ Bible; at least he accepted THAT and cut down to calling her about once a month. Every time before he calls her, he'd call ME first and would ask me to help him come up with a plan for almost every possible response that she'll give (i.e. "What should I do if she picks up and says she's busy?", "What should I do if she says I now have a BF?", "What should I do if she says she's worried about finding a job?", etc.)
Right now, if he pesters me about what he really needs to do to get this girl, I tell him straight up to forget about her and try other women (after hinting this about 100 times in the past already.) Unfortunately, he doesn't seem to even remotely want to consider this option.
Seeing how much trouble he's having with women even at his age (already in his 30's), I kinda feel sorry for my friend.. but at the same time, I feel sorry for my classmate who is probably completely creeped out by this guy by now.