"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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IS there ANY way back?

rjames407

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Hi guys,

Im just wondering if anyone out there has managed to develop attraction/succeed with a girl after 'jumping in with two feet' and asking her out almost straight away without creating any rapport/attraction and getting rejected.

I did this with some chic who I was in a seminar at uni with and she was 'scared off' but I withdrew my attention and she has started contacting me?

Any advice/thoughts welcome
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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WesCottII

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I thought we've been over this?

She's not worth the time or attention. To paraphrase Rollo the time spent trying to save any "relationship" is better spent meeting new birds. This one's done.

She isn't contacting you because she wants to get in your tighty-whiteys, she's contacting you because you're simply not pandering to her demands (not sending her class notes, not falling into AFC line) and she's wondering why. The moment you either start being "mates" with her, or start playing AFC chode, is the moment she'll forget you again.

You have oneitis. Get it into your head that she doesn't want you (wether she WILL want you is un-productive to your improvement), and focus on yourself and other girls. When you've got about 3/4 on the go then this one won't seem to special, but first you have to let go of any thought of "hooking up". Being the man of your dreams is in your grasp, all you have to do is take it.
 

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Never root through the garbage once you drag the can to the curb. You get dirty, your neighbors see you do it and you rarely find what you thought was worth digging for.
 

PlayToWin

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Rollo Tomassi said:
Never root through the garbage once you drag the can to the curb. You get dirty, your neighbors see you do it and you rarely find what you thought was worth digging for.

AWESOME analogy, I love it, and am definiately going to steal it and use it again either on these boards or in real life. :D
 
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