Is there any scenario where a girl could cheat on you and you'd say it wasn't her fault? Is there one where you'd say it's your fault she cheated?

[Alvafe]

We're all aware of the old stereotype that when a woman cheats it's the man's fault for not being man enough for her and satisfying her needs or whatever, and we're all red pill enough to know that that's bullsh!t. Either because it's rarely the reason girls cheat (except in sh!tty marriages) and because that's not how you deal with relationship issues as a responsible adult in the first place.

But it always had me thinking, is there ever a scenario where cheating could be the fault of someone other than the cheater? And in that scenario, what would you do? What should you do?

the only scenario could come up with is:

You talk her into a terrible idea and it backfires, like you convince her to take a job as a masseuse or a stripper in a place you know to be dirty/seedy/shady and she ends up giving happy endings.

I saw a sitcom once where a fat guy convinces his sexy wife to pretend to be single and date a cop to lead him on so that the cop would drop the parking/speeding ticket he gave her since they didn't want to pay it. And my thought the whole time was "why would a fat UPS driver want his way out of his league wife to get 1 on 1 date time with a cop? How could that possibly go well?"

Disclaimer: this whole thing is a theoretical thought experiment, if you get cheated on call her a wh0re and dump her, DO NOT bother to evaluate fault

nope its always the cheater fault, in the very least she put herself on that situation. and serious are you a pimp?

 

[Soflobro#3]

Again, think of Al Bundy. Many men tire of their wives sexually. What if the man becomes impotent? Does that give her carte blanche to then go bang whoever she wants?

Sometimes in a relationship I would rather just beat off to pron if I'm very tired from work or something. It's easier, it's quicker and it's something different.

 

[zekko]

I think in Al Bundy's case, he was not only tired of his wife, he was miserable being married and associated his wife (and kids) with being the cause of much of his misery. So he had a natural revulsion to cuddling up to her. I bet there are more guys like that in real life than you might think.

 

[sosousage]

I think in Al Bundy's case, he was not only tired of his wife, he was miserable being married and associated his wife (and kids) with being the cause of much of his misery. So he had a natural revulsion to cuddling up to her. I bet there are more guys like that in real life than you might think.

yey family is for people who like to work

 

[peanutbuttablunts]

technically its always the mans fault because monogamy is a creation of man and any instance of "shes mine you cant have her" is an act of violence against the brotherhood/fraternity of humanity thus an act of war and hence intentional. married men are all perverts.

 

[corrector]

I'm admittedly old fashioned, but I'm not comfortable with cheating. If you have problems you can't work out, then I would say you should divorce. But that's also breaking your vows, so it's a lose-lose situation.

You are only breaking vows if you re-marry again. If someone divorces and doesn't deal with any woman anymore how is that breaking any vow?

 

[Papa_smu]

Love can last a minute or a lifetime. Why fret over if she's going to cheat on you when she has the option to leave you at any time?

 

[devilkingx2]

Love can last a minute or a lifetime. Why fret over if she's going to cheat on you when she has the option to leave you at any time?

I've never worried about if a girl was going to cheat on me, I've only concerned myself with finding out

 

[devilkingx2]

@rando5495

Part of the problem regarding the whole witholding sex or having lousy sex thing is that guys with their actions inset are unintentionally filtering for a frigid type woman who plays stupid power games with intimacy and sex imo.

I greatly enjoy things like pda and stuff, so i've got no tolerance for frigid types. They can go and be the "quality woman" on someone else's time instead.

I am very intrigued *raises eyebrow* please do go on, elaborate on this theory, as it's something I've always wondered myself.

 

[Dash Riprock]

I "cut off" a LTR from sex after after about 6 years.

I was in a 9 year LTR. I don't believe in marriage. The first 3 years we're fantastic, second 3 pretty good, and last 3 we were like platonic roommates.

She was a hot HB8+ Croatian woman. 30 when I met her, pretty and in really good shape. But over time, I lost interest in her sexually. Part of it was boredom, lack of variety, so to compensate I did look at porn more than normal which probably exacerbated things. The last 3 years were a joke, when she left for work, I got up. When she came home, I left for the gym. On weekends, she took the dog for a walk early, I as cooked breakfast for myself, our schedules rarely meshed. I really didn't care and had no enthusiasm to work it out. Strangely, you get "comfortable" with your situation. In addition, she said early on (first year of living together) that she couldn't sleep in the same bed because "I made noise and moved around too much." She was the only gf to ever say that. But, she was VERY anal retentive, picky, and detail-oriented. Great in one's career, bad traits in a relationship and it led to some resentment from me because I could never meet her expectations with all the critiquing and complaining about trivial matters.

Talk about an erection killer...

About 3 months before we split, she started taking a dance class. I encouraged her, it got her out of the house so I could watch football or whatever in peace. We were living together for 5-6 years and had combined households, so those SS posters thinking "just dump her", well, it's not quite that easy. After about 3 months into the dance classes, she started staying out late "practicing." Then I noticed a distinct change in her behavior towards me, cold, aloof, very b*itchy. I knew who the guy was she was "practicing" (f*ucking) with; a feminine beta male about 14 years younger. I knew him from our gym. I just didn't give a f*ck though.

So one night, with tensions sky high, no words being spoken, I'd had enough. I calmly told her "I can't live this way." She got a look on her face I'd never seen; almost demonic. I said "I know what you're doing, too." She smiled like a sly fox and said, "I've done nothing." Right. I told her she had two weeks to move out, let's do this as cleanly and unemotional as possible. She did cry a bit but never clamored to get me back. I held frame 100%.

Three days after she moved out, I was eating dinner, watching TV and my Doberman was sleeping at my feet. The amount of relief and lowered stress was incredible. I felt alive again. My blood pressure felt like 60/40. I was at peace. The future was bright. I was...HAPPY.

So, yes, men DO withhold sex but usually because the relationship has soured and gone boring, there is resentment, and the connection is long gone.

I love hot fudge sundaes, but I get sick of eating one every day of the week for 9 years. I'm just not wired for marriage or LTRs.

Yes, we both could have done things to work on the relationship, but we didn't.

AND, had we been married, after the divorce, I would have been financing her trysts with her beta male lover on my dime. But because I refused to get married, I got off owing absolutely nothing money-wise.

I've been NC with her for well over a year. I just don't care what she's up to. No hard feelings, I JDGAF. I'm future-focused.

Hope this story helps some here on SS.

Ciao,

~Dash

 

[Red Legg]

I "cut off" a LTR from sex after after about 6 years.

I was in a 9 year LTR. I don't believe in marriage. The first 3 years we're fantastic, second 3 pretty good, and last 3 we were like platonic roommates.

She was a hot HB8+ Croatian woman. 30 when I met her, pretty and in really good shape. But over time, I lost interest in her sexually. Part of it was boredom, lack of variety, so to compensate I did look at porn more than normal which probably exacerbated things. The last 3 years were a joke, when she left for work, I got up. When she came home, I left for the gym. On weekends, she took the dog for a walk early, I as cooked breakfast for myself, our schedules rarely meshed. I really didn't care and had no enthusiasm to work it out. Strangely, you get "comfortable" with your situation. In addition, she said early on (first year of living together) that she couldn't sleep in the same bed because "I made noise and moved around too much." She was the only gf to ever say that. But, she was VERY anal retentive, picky, and detail-oriented. Great in one's career, bad traits in a relationship and it led to some resentment from me because I could never meet her expectations with all the critiquing and complaining about trivial matters.

Talk about an erection killer...

About 3 months before we split, she started taking a dance class. I encouraged her, it got her out of the house so I could watch football or whatever in peace. We were living together for 5-6 years and had combined households, so those SS posters thinking "just dump her", well, it's not quite that easy. After about 3 months into the dance classes, she started staying out late "practicing." Then I noticed a distinct change in her behavior towards me, cold, aloof, very b*itchy. I knew who the guy was she was "practicing" (f*ucking) with; a feminine beta male about 14 years younger. I knew him from our gym. I just didn't give a f*ck though.

So one night, with tensions sky high, no words being spoken, I'd had enough. I calmly told her "I can't live this way." She got a look on her face I'd never seen; almost demonic. I said "I know what you're doing, too." She smiled like a sly fox and said, "I've done nothing." Right. I told her she had two weeks to move out, let's do this as cleanly and unemotional as possible. She did cry a bit but never clamored to get me back. I held frame 100%.

Three days after she moved out, I was eating dinner, watching TV and my Doberman was sleeping at my feet. The amount of relief and lowered stress was incredible. I felt alive again. My blood pressure felt like 60/40. I was at peace. The future was bright. I was...HAPPY.

So, yes, men DO withhold sex but usually because the relationship has soured and gone boring, there is resentment, and the connection is long gone.

I love hot fudge sundaes, but I get sick of eating one every day of the week for 9 years. I'm just not wired for marriage or LTRs.

Yes, we both could have done things to work on the relationship, but we didn't.

AND, had we been married, after the divorce, I would have been financing her trysts with her beta male lover on my dime. But because I refused to get married, I got off owing absolutely nothing money-wise.

I've been NC with her for well over a year. I just don't care what she's up to. No hard feelings, I JDGAF. I'm future-focused.

Hope this story helps some here on SS.

Ciao,

~Dash

Where you fvcked up is she moved in with you....this chick could have been a lifelong plate...I would have perma-plated her Croatian ass.

 

[peanutbuttablunts]

yeah when the wife goes so does the mistress. institutionalizing long term plate action is actually quite brilliant