Glassguy
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Good explanation and spot on.Nothing is perfect. There will always be problems. Even men who cling to these red pill rules will come in here and gripe about their experiences.
What’s most important is knowing how to properly deal with, overcome and move on when things don’t work out, especially when you’re hurting and your logic is comprised so much that you make dumb decisions that always lead to more pain.
I’m not the mushy romantic type at all. Women often complain about that. But I’m also not afraid to be a little vulnerable too, and I’m not afraid because I know how to and I’m prepaired to deal with it properly when/if the time comes.
@Pajeet Singh
I am not a fan of PUA tactics and I dont feel this forum is a PUA site. We all have different views, goals, end game, etc when it comes to dating. We also have our own niche on how we do well with women and all interactions with human beings (business, relationships, etc).
While I think that it is extremely important to have red pill tendencies but you should also not live on the edge of either side of the spectrum.
If you follow a red pill mentality and really focus on the following things, this is a pretty easy game:
1.) Put yourself first. Do things that make YOU happy. Dont be a doormat but also dont be afraid to put yourself in a position if a good opportunity comes along (with women or life in general). You do have to take some risk in life to get rewarded. Make sure they are educated risks.
2.) Always be committed to improving yourself. This is a never ending journey. Its a marathon and not a sprint. Health, career, mentality, psychologically, financial......You should be searching constantly for ways to self improve.
The main reason why men fail with women (IMO) is they put finding a woman or women FIRST on their priority list. That is their downfall. They act like finding a woman is a life or death situation because they FEAR being alone (as you stated in your post above).
Guess what? Your problem isnt finding women. Your problem isnt that the information you have learned on here isnt working.
Your problem is you havent found out how to make yourself happy and that is nobody's job but your own. Until you do that, it will not matter what you do as you will always be relying on other people or something else to entertain you and provide your happiness.
When your goal is to find a woman, you will be sorely let down in life. You will be depressed and alone.
Instead make YOUR life better by working on yourself. The happier you are, the better life you build and the path that takes you there IS attractive to women.
Remember that attracting more women and better quality women is a result of the work that you put into yourself. Its a byproduct but by no means should finding a woman EVER be the #1 goal.
And its not just women. Human beings by nature let other humans down. You need to improve yourself, rely on yourself to make your own happiness and find your purpose.