"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is there an all-natural equivalent to Xanax?

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I'm assuming there isn't but I figured I'd ask anyway. Xanax is a perscription drug that calms your nerves quickly. Anything like this that's natural?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Valerian root and I think Cammomile.
 

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Paradox said:
Valerian root and I think Cammomile.
Valerian root can be harsh on your liver, and Chamomile makes you sleepy.

Try theanine, L-theanine, or GABA. Insitol may also help.

But to be honest, best thing is to just take a deep breath and relax. Some of the effects of these are placebos, and even Xanax is not perfect. The more you think you have a problem, the greater that problem will seem. Too many companies nowadays are striving for the opportunity to make normal human tendencies into big diseases or problems.

If you're tired take this. If you're anxious take something else. Take --- for cholesterol. Take --- for restless leg syndrome. Take --- for blah blah blah blah blah. The list is endless. Technically speaking, you could load up on all of these and still not enough, and there's probably people who think they have tons of problems when in actuality they're just normal. A little anxiety is perfectly normal. Fear of public speaking in front of a crowd is normal. Most people fear that more than death, according to surveys.

So if you think you need Xanax, think again. I used to think I needed it at one point, but the more you think you need something, the more power you give to whatever issue you've made up in your mind.
 
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Xanax is HIGHLY addictive and the withdrawls will make you want to put a gun to your head.

Bible Belt is right, marijuana is the only thing equivalent to Xanax, but it's still different. I'd rather take a couple Xanax and a beer over a joint. I just get so relaxed and comfortable I will talk to anybody about anything.

Funny Marijuana is illegal and it's non addictive while they shove Xanax down your throat.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Magnesium, green tea, Rhodiola rosea, meditation, visualisation and relaxation techniques.
 

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The closest thing is probably alcohol, which is a GABA receptor agonist.

If you're trying to find a quick fix for anxiety--I've been down that road. There is no quick fix.
 

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San Jose California said:
Does anyone think that it would be a good idea for someone who really sucks at giving presentations, to take a Xanex right before a presentation? As in he sweats/face turns red, would it help that?
Benzos might help the nerves, but you might also need something else, i think they are called "beta blockers" for the physical symptoms.

I take Clonazepam for anxiety and to help me sleep. It's the best drug in the world....I just wouldn't use it any more than you have to or you MIGHT become addicted to it. I think the addiction thing is blown way out of proportion, but I only take about 1/3 of what the doc actually prescribes me just to make sure I don't build a tolerance or any sort of "addiction".
 

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I would have to agree with the others that said valerian root. I've tried it a few times and it definitely relaxes you.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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STR8UP said:
I take Clonazepam for anxiety and to help me sleep. It's the best drug in the world....I just wouldn't use it any more than you have to or you MIGHT become addicted to it. I think the addiction thing is blown way out of proportion, but I only take about 1/3 of what the doc actually prescribes me just to make sure I don't build a tolerance or any sort of "addiction".
Never heard of that one. Is it like Xanax or more like Zoloft/Lexopro? Any bad side effects?
 

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The reason I'm asking this is because I still suffer from this long-standing problem of simply caring too much about what people think of me. It's the number #1 thing holding me back in life. I care too much, get worried and nervous, and end up doing something awkward and stupid.

I was hoping to find a natural remedy to just calm me down and not care so much damn much.
 
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