"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Is there a thing as teasing too much?

tryst type

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Was just at a pub with friends and we were approached by three women, one of my friends was laying the teasing on thick.

Wasn't answering any questions kept making up answers.

She seemed into it but at same time it felt like it was way too much and she walked off saying "you're too much."

Did he build interest or annoyance?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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FairShake

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You can definitely tease and play around too much.

If a woman is tells you how crazy you are, how much of a "mess" you are, how you're too much, etc. more than once in a conversation you need to be a little less weird.

If they are laughing and continuing the conversation without calling attention to you (instead of your comment) you are doing fine.

Women, when out and about, can be pretty forgiving if you pick up on their cues.
 

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It appeared like he was trying to get attraction over and over while at the same time she was trying to get some rapport.

She seemed into it and said he was funny but I'm curious if he blew it by constantly trying to have a funny/witty response.

Also she would jump around from him to me to two of my other friends. I teased subtly which got her wanting to "take it outside" and playfully strangled me.

When my friend teased she just kept trying to pry for real answers and only touching she did was lift his sleeve to look at his tattoo.
 

zekko

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This is why I'm not fond of the PUA advice; "Never give a woman a straight answer". Then they usually suggest a C&F response. I mean maybe I could get behind that if it was "Only give a straight answer 20% of the time" or something like that. But never is a bit much.

Like Mike says, at some point you want to be able to have a normal conversation.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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VladPatton

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Too much of ANY technique will become annoying and transparent.
 

iamnobody

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Teasing too much makes you come off as a try hard and insecure. Balance is the key to teasing.
 
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