"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Is there a racial barrier?

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Hey guys, I'm new to the forum, and this is my problem:

I'm Asian, and I live in a predominantly white city, although I have dated several white women, I think that a lot of white girls are put off initially by my heritage (I'm not ugly though).

Is this something I can overcome with being more DJlike or is it just something I'm doing to rationalize not approaching women?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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PapiChulo

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Yes, it's hard for Asian and East Indian guys. The Asian chix themselves prefer white guys as well.

Black guys have an advantage over white guys. I dont understand how you havent realized that yet.
 

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Depends on which city you're in. Seattle is different from New York is different from Memphis. There are some places where race matters more and other places where race matters less.

Either way, being the Alpha Male transcends race, and women of all races are instinctively drawn to the top man. Perfect your game, and no matter where you are, the women will want you.
 

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PapiChulo said:
The Asian chix themselves prefer white guys as well.
Only the cool Asian girls that I want to date, the *****y materialistic ones only date Asians *sigh

I live in Portland, so I need to up my alpha male factor even more so than the average DJ, no problem, ha looking forward to it
 

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Society is becoming more acclimated to the racial and gay stereotype. The 90s paved the way, but there will always be a level of intolerance to a degree. Go for it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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In your post are you saying that you don't want to date Asian chicks and instead want to date only White chicks ? Oh wait, you said that your city is predominately White....
Hell, I think Asians are the hottest chicks out there !
Anyway, I actually think you are at an advantage because you're somewhat unique in your area. Just avoid the silly Asian sterotype of the nerd/geek and cultivate a badass image like those Asian guys in the first Fast and Furious movie, but be a great guy.....
 

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Honestly, I think it only matters in terms of negative stereotypes. For example, I am a south Indian male that was born and lived in New Zealand my whole life.

I try and distance myself from negative stereotypes regarding Indian culture and I'm fine - I don't have an accent, keep good fashion sense, work out etc.

Just things like this that separate you from any negatives associated with your particular race are really all you need.

Practically I'd say just introduce elements into your character both in terms of looks/style and also hobbies. For example, if you're an Asian that does boxing or some other sport like that you're immediately distancing yourself from the typical "study hard" Asian mentality.

Just my 2 cents.

EDIT: Oh, and yeah, well the few attractive Indian/Asian girls I do see, it seems easier to game. Too bad I'm more into those blondes.
 

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I think it does matter to some girls, but I believe it has less to do with how physically attractive women find them. It's more about the attitude of a lot of fresh off the boat guys have about dating turns a lot of white women off. It gives cool Asians a bad name. However, confidence absolutely transcends any of that. Thinking that it matters will only make it harder for you to approach and game.
Learn to be the top guy, and believe me, those white hoes will date a chink ;)
 

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Rubirosa said:
In your post are you saying that you don't want to date Asian chicks and instead want to date only White chicks ? Oh wait, you said that your city is predominately White....
Hell, I think Asians are the hottest chicks out there !
There's two kinds of Asian girls out there, the traditional b*itchy kind, and the cool kind (who only date white guys).

I was born here, so I don't have those Fresh off the boat problems.

But thanks guys, the question is really doesn't matter now that I think about it. Being a DJ is all about self improvement and confidence, so real or perceived handicaps don't really matter in the big picture.
 

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Yea, one advantage you have is that some chicks would love to eventually have pretty mixed kids.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Hard to say, some asian dudes do well, one of my best friends is a 38 year old Korean dude and the guy is a PIMP, and is currently ****ing a half black/white chick whos hot, I don't know how the little bastard does it, haha but its awesome, he's got two more chicks as well, both hmong
 

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bankshot56 said:
Is there a racial barrier?
Yes. If race is part of a woman's qualifying criteria, you will never be able to overcome that barrier.


Is this something I can overcome with being more DJlike or is it just something I'm doing to rationalize not approaching women?
You always need to be improving yourself so that, when the right one comes along (i.e. a woman who finds you attractive), you'll be ready to handle her.

In the meantime, you need to approach and talk to women who you find attractive and/or who are giving you IOIs. Practice, practice, practice.
 

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Papichulo not to flame race card as it is a touchy subject. But saying blacks have an advantage over me because I'm white is a joke and highly offensive. You've let others do your thinking for you rather than think and see for yourself.
 

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Black guys have the advantage? HA!!! yeah right.....

People tend to stereotype blacks too
Asians don't want to be with blacks, Middle eastern and Indian Women don't want to be with blacks.

Most White women would not even consider a black man...Most of the White women you see with black men are the Thick - over weight kind. Hell, even our own black women don't want a good black man.

I don't wanna hear no nonsense about any Race having it "better" than most, it all boils down to who you are as a person, but Many people can't get over the color of one's skin........
 

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An average black guys is tougher, stronger and more masculine.(has a bigger d*ck)

Half of this forum is composed of Asian guys not getting laid, and see hardly any black dudes on here - I wonder why.

I ve seen people being rejected on bases of their ethnicity and religion a lot more than race.
In fact, that stupid pus*y-as* liberalism (pluralism) is clouding your brains while putting a set of nice rose glasses on.

All there is to do is realize that you are at a disadvantage and make up for it in the other departments.
What do you think makes OP even ask that question?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Papichulo, Go home and listen to your rap music, little boy. It's a matter of confidence plain and simple. Making generalized statements about races is ignorant and shows your limited life experience. Spend a decade in prison, you'll understand then.
 

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Onlyliveonce said:
Papichulo not to flame race card as it is a touchy subject. But saying blacks have an advantage over me because I'm white is a joke and highly offensive. You've let others do your thinking for you rather than think and see for yourself.
He's just being real with you. No need to be a pu$$y about it (highly offensive? get out of here! :p )

The feminist agenda which started around the 60's was mainly targeted towards the white male population. Today's feminized young white men who populate this forum and other forums like it and make up most of the customers of the PUA industry and PUA seminars are a result of what started decades ago.

The black male population luckily wasn't targeted with feminism but other things to destroy them (drugs for example).

The reason a lot of women gravitate towards black men is because they have that old school masculine energy of men from the past. This is because we still haven't seen the black generation of pu$$ywhipped men unlike for whites who have already been ruined.

Blacks will get there sooner or later. Skinny jeans, gay rappers and a lot of negative stuff is being pushed on the black community at the moment to do what was done to whites decades ago.
 

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If you let outside "Agendas" "Liberalism" etc affect your daily thought process you are a sheep. Never proscribed to anything but my own thoughts. Thinking someone is tougher better etc. because of there race is for weak minded p$$ssies like you F283000. Unlike you when I get offended I do something about it, always have. I guess "In the real world" clowns like you can tap a few keys and call someone a P$ssy on a computer and feel like a man. You'd last five seconds in a cellblock. Just being "Real".
 

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Onlyliveonce said:
If you let outside "Agendas" "Liberalism" etc affect your daily thought process you are a sheep. Never proscribed to anything but my own thoughts. Thinking someone is tougher better etc. because of there race is for weak minded p$$ssies like you F283000. Unlike you when I get offended I do something about it, always have. I guess "In the real world" clowns like you can tap a few keys and call someone a P$ssy on a computer and feel like a man. You'd last five seconds in a cellblock. Just being "Real".

Are you a simple idiot or just trolling? I think you need to have your head checked before you waste everybody's time on here.
You are one of those dumb arrogant mofos that dont understand English.
 

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PapiChulo said:
An average black guys is tougher, stronger and more masculine.(has a bigger d*ck)
Are you a pecker checker or do you know this from all the porn you watch?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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