"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Is the revenge f@$k worth it?

slikkmeister

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So I have this girl who I could probably revenge bang if I want too. She ljbf me 2 years ago and I went NC on her. Have seen her socially and I usually just blow her off. I'm respectful but dismissive at the same time. I try to be a gentlemen, but I feel like I kind of owe her one if you know what I mean... I know it's not her fault, she's the worse AW I've ever met. Daddy issues, BPD,(yes, real BPD, prescribed medication for it and therapy). Anyone else ever done this? Is it worth it? I'm not looking for judgement, and I won't pass any either! I'm going to do, what I'm going to do, regardless of anyone else. I just haven't made up my mind yet if it's worth pursuing.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Peaks&Valleys

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BPD's are sexual creatures. Could be worth it. The key with this one: Don't get attached. You may be able to keep her as an FB but BPD's are hard to figure out, and to keep to any type of schedule, or their word for that matter. Once you get going with her she may start to do stupid $hit like hit you up for a booty call, then once you commit.... flake, that kind of crap. Once she starts playing her succubus games you'll have to abort. Be ready for it.

Know what you're getting into, as it seems like you do, and you should be okay.
 

Knight's Cross

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BPD's are known to go Stage 5 Clinger when you beat them at their own game. So if you do hit that and leave it, expect her to do the jealous ex girlfriend subroutine. That can include driving by your place, stopping by unannounced, ridiculous e-mail, call, and text drama. If you are cool with that, then proceed. If you don't want that anymore steer clear of her.
I'd rather spin more plates than go back to easy to hit tail.
KC
 

taiyuu_otoko

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I vote no.

There seems to be too much potential negative feedback for just one lousy lay.

Things like this only seem like a good idea before you do them. Afterwards (at least in my case) they don't seem such a good idea in retrospect.

Especially if you see this girl around. You don't want no BP making up all kind of stories (that could potentially get you put in jail) if she mixes in her BP (and whatever else you say she has) with feelings of post-coital blow-off.

Turning her into an FB, on the other hand, with some up front "no strings" verbal agreements is something else.

Then again, she might knife you in the eyeball while you're sleeping or something.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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zekko

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taiyuu_otoko said:
I vote no.
I agree with this. Although the PUA community tries to downplay it, sex is a serious business. You could impregnate the girl or get an STD. I just wouldn't want to mess around with something like revenge in this kind of arena. Seems like bad karma.
 

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All good advice. I think I just had a momentary lapse of reason. You know how it is, you think with your **** instead of your brain. I'm gonna leave her alone. Definitely not worth the headache later. And, if I got her pregnant I'd effin shoot myself!
 
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