"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Is the power of thing mind that strong?

Shivastorm_88

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According to Pook, as you think you shall become. Is the mind that strong? If I truly persuade myself that I am the goods and that all girls should be happy to even have a chance to be by my side, will I really start thinking that and it will become a natural state of mind, so natural that it will bring me a lot of self-confidence? And how can you convince yourself that, other then by repeating it to yourself countless times?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Yes, did you ever notice that if you lie to yourself about how something happened enough, you truly start to believe it? The more you hear something, you begin to accept it, and eventually actually believe it. Reading the affirmations before i go out does the same thing.

the more you hear it the more real it becomes
 

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I think that belief is the core of your character and dictates how you live your life. Whether you believe in good or bad things, that is how you're going to perceive the world and yourself.

Of course you can always change your beliefs.

I'm not sure how you would keep that persistancy to put yourself in the state of mind you seek but at least start with being honest with yourself is a good start. Not saying that you should be realistic in a detrimental way but more of having a good solid ground to build your confidence.
 

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KnockoutJM said:
Yes, did you ever notice that if you lie to yourself about how something happened enough, you truly start to believe it?
Sure, but all that does is make you delusional, it doesn't mean it really DID happen. :rolleyes:
 

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bigjohnson said:
Sure, but all that does is make you delusional, it doesn't mean it really DID happen. :rolleyes:
Wow, talk about missing the point entirely...
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Master Bates said:
Wow, talk about missing the point entirely...
Believing something that's not true is delusional. The problem with most guys is that they DO believe things that are not true; things Hollywood and western society in general have pounded into them for years.

The "point" given that I responded to was idiotic, but the technique is useful for deprogramming purposes.
 

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Every word from the mouth of Pook is pure truth.
 

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Shivastorm_88 said:
According to Pook, as you think you shall become. Is the mind that strong? If I truly persuade myself that I am the goods and that all girls should be happy to even have a chance to be by my side, will I really start thinking that and it will become a natural state of mind, so natural that it will bring me a lot of self-confidence? And how can you convince yourself that, other then by repeating it to yourself countless times?
To a point it's true, but your mindset is only half the battle, action is the other. I mean I can sit here all day and visualize myself as a millionaire, but unless I actually get out there start a business or something, it's not going to happen. Success is a positive mindset + action.
 
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