Is the lone wolf a coping myth

[Lordeterra]

I have the balls to stand by myself and stand up for myself but I must admit i feel much more powerful as a man in my environment knowing I am the leader of strong men. What do you guys think? Do you need a group of people to feel powerful or can you stand on your own two feet. I can stand my ground but I am man enough to admit I’ll probably get my ass beat vs
a group of 10 people

 

[SW15]

No, I don't think the lone wolf is a coping myth. Single men age 30+ who are never married and have no kids tend to be lone wolves. Couples comprise most social circles. When men form friendships as single men and many of the men marry off, the remaining single men will generally be made not to feel welcome by the married men. Also, the married men tend to become more self-absorbed and more focused on suburban house, dog, and possibly kid things that single men tend not to find to be important or interesting.

 

[2Rocky]

There are two times the Lone Wolf is a lone wolf. Once when he is too young and inexperienced to be a pack leader or member, and when he is too old to keep his position as pack leader.

As a youngster he learns and improves himself so he is a valuable member of the pack. Once his value is recognized and he is accepted, eventually his leadership is valued and he rises to the role. Eventually a younger, tougher pack leader will come along and drive him off to eliminate the competition. He lives out his days picking up scraps from the pack or uses his experience to pair up with another wolf, male or female to work in conjunction out side the pack system.

 

[Alvafe]

you are too young, plus possible is not your personality, I never liked people in general, and dumb people annoy the hell of me, so I intend to stay alone, and I like to be alone, most people who can't stand ebeing alone are boring and annoying, so I take it they are so annoying even then can't stand thenselfs

 

[Lordeterra]

There are two times the Lone Wolf is a lone wolf. Once when he is too young and inexperienced to be a pack leader or member, and when he is too old to keep his position as pack leader.

As a youngster he learns and improves himself so he is a valuable member of the pack. Once his value is recognized and he is accepted, eventually his leadership is valued and he rises to the role. Eventually a younger, tougher pack leader will come along and drive him off to eliminate the competition. He lives out his days picking up scraps from the pack or uses his experience to pair up with another wolf, male or female to work in conjunction out side the pack system.

I feel powerful within myself but I also feel the need to be the leader of men. Should I just take ocer?

 

[Lordeterra]

I’m not saying being alone is impossible done it most of my life but isn’t the point of being alpha to be the leader

 

[Bokanovsky]

I have the balls to stand by myself and stand up for myself but I must admit i feel much more powerful as a man in my environment knowing I am the leader of strong men. What do you guys think? Do you need a group of people to feel powerful or can you stand on your own two feet. I can stand my ground but I am man enough to admit I’ll probably get my ass beat vs
a group of 10 people

Not only will you get your ass beat by a group of 10 people, but, more than likely, you will get your ass beat by a group of two people. So if you're planning to start a gang, going lone wolf is not a great strategy. But if you are talking about being comfortable in your own skin and being able to meet women and enjoy life, then yes, you can absolutely do that as a lone wolf.

 

[Zimbabwe]

As we grow older it becomes harder to make male friends, most guys have their established cliques.

Personally i have always preferred to just date women, why hang out with Joseph at the movies when i can just go on a date with Jennifer there instead?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I have the balls to stand by myself and stand up for myself but I must admit i feel much more powerful as a man in my environment knowing I am the leader of strong men. What do you guys think? Do you need a group of people to feel powerful or can you stand on your own two feet. I can stand my ground but I am man enough to admit I’ll probably get my ass beat vs
a group of 10 people

Who said you have to fight them?

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

At this point, I think there needs to be a huge definition at the top of the page, so we don't keep going in circles with this.

It wouldn't matter...

People would always interrupt, claiming that their momentary irrational aggressive moment makes them the alpha.

 

[Lordeterra]

At this point, I think there needs to be a huge definition at the top of the page, so we don't keep going in circles with this.

I have the perfect definition of alpha. I’m busy though but tldr is basically living in the moment while working towards your goals. If you can achieve that “flow” state your alpha and nothing can stop you. The universe will unfold the way you want. Esoteric and I can slip and out of that state but when your in that “state” you just know.

 

[metalwater]

At this point, I think there needs to be a huge definition at the top of the page, so we don't keep going in circles with this.

following your own dream and wishes and doing things that align with that instead of what someone else wants you to do.

 

[Plinco]

Keep in mind that humans aren't exactly wolves.

That said, you do whatever you think you have to do. It is your life, your responsibility.

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

You don't need a bunch of male friends as you get older. Nor do you need to lead any other guys. After high school (or maybe college), it's every man for themself. Don't kid yourself.

 

[firstbornunicorn]

Depends. If a guy calls himself "lone wolf" he better have a badass life instead of being on an internet forum posting cringe ****.

 

[Francis]

You don't need a bunch of male friends as you get older. Nor do you need to lead any other guys. After high school (or maybe college), it's every man for themself. Don't kid yourself.

This has been my experience as well. I only thought other men were encouraging, supportive, etc, but that turned out to be way off base. The majority of guys want to be the best and aren't interested in seeing others doing better than them -- especially not much better. A lot of people are phony and only pretend to have the answers, when they're just as insecure and competitive as the rest. Especially the ones that make a lot of noise.

All the successful guys (and girls) I knew went solo. Yeah they had a lot of acquaintances but not close friendships, and they didn't bring other people along or seek their guidance. They didn't trust anyone -- and now I see why. The most success I had was being solo as well. But I thought there was more I needed which other guys could help with. lol. Which they also convinced me of, in using my insecurities / weaknesses against me. But they just got in the way, tried to one-up and compete, sabotage any success, and really had nothing to offer other than smoke and mirrors. All while prancing around like they were king ****. They couldn't attract any decent women, and didn't want anyone else to either. The more malicious ones spread lies like wildfire to destroy my reputation, tried to isolate and control me, and so on.

Even within friendship groups, there's a lot of backstabbing, drama, one-upping, competing, etc. They all want to maintain their position on the social ladder and aren't interested in seeing others change theirs.

The worst part is, none of this helped with getting or attracting women in any way. You can be very social and confident, look great, etc without needing a bunch of close friendships.

 

[2Rocky]

Depends. If a guy calls himself "lone wolf" he better have a badass life instead of being on an internet forum posting cringe ****.

Exhibit A

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

I have found male friends to be equally as much of a liability as a boon, definitely want to mind the situation you are bringing them into

 

[Lordeterra]

Thanks for the responses here. Appreciate it. Yeah I’m content putting myself first and achieving my dreams with a few close girls and family. Thanks

 

[Machine10033]

Too much thinking anymore... do what makes you happy. Only you know how you feel. If your a true loner your probably introverted and enjoy and thrive in solitude. If your an extrovert pretending to be a loner to cope with sub par social skills you will be miserable. Only you know... if your coping by pretending to be a true loner you would be better off and happier improving your social skills and maintaining relationships.