"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Is the friendzone bull****?

MurdocIsGod

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I think it just means they find you too ugly, or your personality is currently unattractive to them.

I've been called "friend" by certain girls and then end up ****ing them. I ask this one girl about how that happened (she's really into me now), she said something like "oh you must've gotten better..." and another time she was like "I don't know I've changed since then". :confused:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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PapiChulo

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Yes, attraction=sex=dating, Comfort=friend, they still have to like your personality in any case. It doesn't mean that there are other cases, as in you have improved your looks, or she misjudged your character. Friendzone ain't bullish!t unless you are one sexy mofo.
 

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MurdocIsGod said:
I think it just means they find you too ugly, or your personality is currently unattractive to them.

I've been called "friend" by certain girls and then end up ****ing them. I ask this one girl about how that happened (she's really into me now), she said something like "oh you must've gotten better..." and another time she was like "I don't know I've changed since then". :confused:
Yes, the friendzone theory is complete bullsh!t. Good post.
 

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Its simply a nice way for women to tell you that they aren't attracted to you pure and simple and the general consensus is that once you're in the friendzone it is extremely difficult to get out.
And unfortunately, it is this minuscule probability that a lot of new guys hang onto. "OMG, I have a one in billion chance that she will get together with me! It's not zero, right!?"

Time would be better spent spinning plates. You know, perhaps find a better, hotter girl... ;)
 

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yeah. i loved my best friend for like 7 years then she just got out of a LTR. we hooked up a lot but she wouldn't date me.

so i guess girls have a different mindset for dating as the do just hooking up.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Mike32ct

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I think it's real. It's one of two scenarios:

1. She has never been attracted to you.

Or

2. She was somewhat attracted to you and you never made a move on her. Over time, you became like a brother to her. Now, the idea of hooking up with you seems incestuous and literally grosses her out.

If you're a really hot guy, you probably won't fall into either scenario.
 

MurdocIsGod

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Mike32ct said:
1. She has never been attracted to you.

Or

2. She was somewhat attracted to you and you never made a move on her. Over time, you became like a brother to her. Now, the idea of hooking up with you seems incestuous and literally grosses her out.
If it's the first one, that means that you're simply not flicking her switches. Or she finds you fat/ugly or something.

The second one would surely only happen if you hang around her and speak to her far too much? I can imagine that happening, yeah. I don't think many guys make that mistake though?
 

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MurdocIsGod said:
If it's the first one, that means that you're simply not flicking her switches. Or she finds you fat/ugly or something.

Agreed.
The second one would surely only happen if you hang around her and speak to her far too much? I can imagine that happening, yeah. I don't think many guys make that mistake though?
Correct. It happens with AFC guys. A guy can get too chummy or friendly with a girl. Then her, loving the attention, talks to him for hours. He thinks he's building a relationship, but instead he's friendzoning himself by being all talk and not making a move.
 

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This is not always the case though. I had been friends with this one girl since last fall and then she drank with me and told me how much she liked me for so long and all this stuff. And it's happened more than once and also while she wasn't even drunk. So, you CAN TALK A LOT to a girl, not make any moves, and still have her EXTREMELY interested in you. It just comes down to how you ACT while you are with her. If you spark her interest, it doesn't matter how long you talk without making a move.
 

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Energy25 said:
This is not always the case though. I had been friends with this one girl since last fall and then she drank with me and told me how much she liked me for so long and all this stuff. And it's happened more than once and also while she wasn't even drunk. So, you CAN TALK A LOT to a girl, not make any moves, and still have her EXTREMELY interested in you. It just comes down to how you ACT while you are with her. If you spark her interest, it doesn't matter how long you talk without making a move.
I can understand that. There are no 100 percent rules in the game. It is possible to have a girl have the hots for you for a long time (despite not making a move) IF you handle it correctly. You are definitely advanced and have that attractive masculine presence firmly developed.

The friendzone concept is a very general thing for newbies to understand. Generally, it is best to strike when the iron is hot. Most guys don't get strong, sustained interest from girls. It's fleeting interest at best, so they must act on it quickly in order to have a chance. More attractive or advanced guys can take their time.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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not true

i made a topic about this about a month back..

some girls will like you at first and you dont do anything so over time they develop a brother love for you....this is no BS i experienced this and still am experiencing it
 

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I hooked up with a couple of "friends" that I was friendzoned. most of the time you cant get anywhere being friends.
 

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irocknike23 said:
not true

i made a topic about this about a month back..

some girls will like you at first and you dont do anything so over time they develop a brother love for you....this is no BS i experienced this and still am experiencing it
Exactly. The spark is gone.

Yes, there are examples of girls who get together with a male friend. In case it wasn't obvious by now, there are exceptions to every rule. But that doesn't mean the general behavior doesn't exist. When a girl keeps a guy as a friend, that generally means she isn't attracted to him. Or she would have made a boyfriend out of him already.
 

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It's possible to to break out of the friend zone, but it's kind of like breaking out of jail. It takes time, patience, planning, and the ability to be sly & fly under the radar to hide your intentions. You have to carefully evaluate the situation, if she tells you that you remind her of Steve Urkel, you're in trouble. If she's showing signs that say "I'm not quite sure about you, but I'm sticking you in my friend zone just for right now" then start chipping away at her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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old married dude said:
It's possible to to break out of the friend zone, but it's kind of like breaking out of jail. It takes time, patience, planning, and the ability to be sly & fly under the radar to hide your intentions. You have to carefully evaluate the situation, if she tells you that you remind her of Steve Urkel, you're in trouble. If she's showing signs that say "I'm not quite sure about you, but I'm sticking you in my friend zone just for right now" then start chipping away at her.
I think most guys would like further explanation on this.
 
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