Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Is taking care of her DOG too NICE?

Tantric

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I met this girl 1 year ago when her and i worked on a film project together...we'll call her HBSmile. I thought she was a pretty cool girl, cute, great body (dancer)...long blonde hair, great smile, beautiful eyes...overall an HB8. After the project ended i didn't keep in touch (GF).

We ended up in a class together a month ago and are scene partners (acting class). We've gone out pretty casually for dinner/drinks...movies...nothing "date" like...and her and i get along GREAT! I always get her laughing, we always have a great time when we are together, the conversations are in-depth...and we have a lot in common.

Anyway...she's going home for xmas and is placing her dog into a kennel for 2 weeks. When i asked why she just didn't leave him with a friend, she said that all of her friends are going back home too. I love dogs and was dog sitting for someone last month, so i just casually suggested she leave him with me.

Is that too nice?

Up to this point, i have been pretty much in-control of what has been going on...doing my own thing on the side...and i have never once supplicated.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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if you want to dog sit, then do it. chances are if you havent seen any signs yet then all she sees you for is a friend

b
 

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If you REALLY enjoy being around dogs and dogsitting like you say, and aren't just doing this to try to impress or otherwise win her over, then you're fine. :)
 

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Just do what you want

Do you really need to write in asking if its too nice to look after a dog?

You have agreed to it, live your own life, if you think later that it was a mistake

learn from it then, but live man, you only get one crack at life
 

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be smart, take her dog for a walk to pick up other girls! :)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Chrispy
be smart, take her dog for a walk to pick up other girls! :)
Teach Rover some new tricks while you're at it!
 

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Yeah, if you can't get the chick to s*ck your d*ck, then at least you can spread a little Alpo on your balls and let Rover take over!!
 

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Yeah, yeah...i supposed i deserved those replies! :)

Actually, i haven't really agreed to it...not yet. i told her i'd get back to her.

In response to xiola's post...

The last thing i want to be is "just" her friend...however...she is VERY shy around guys, and she told me herself when i first met her that she doesn't flirt with guys she "likes", and that she is shy even to make a move or give signals...

Which is ALSO why i can't read her.
 

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Originally posted by Borgia


You have agreed to it, live your own life, if you think later that it was a mistake

learn from it then, but live man, you only get one crack at life
Great Quote.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Originally posted by Don Juanabbe
Yeah, if you can't get the chick to s*ck your d*ck, then at least you can spread a little Alpo on your balls and let Rover take over!!

OOOo man, that **** illegal! Don't say that bro!
 

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Having done this myself, here are some plusses:

1) If you do a good job, her trust in you increases.
2) It gets you off your butt and walking several times a day which leads to improved health and fitness
3) The dog is a chick magnet so you'll end up meeting other girls.

The biggest potential minus I can see is if she says to you "I'm going away with my BF this weekend..." or "I'm going off on Spring Break to party and get naked on TV..." or something a bit more subtle and "Would you mind taking care of the dog?" Tell her to get a life and you're not the dog's nanny. If this is the case, she clearly sees you only as a friend which translates into "you're an AFC to me and I can treat you like crap whenever the mood strikes me."

Bottom line is that you need to have some idea of her character BEFORE you ante up for something like this.

Oh, and if she doesn't do something nice for you like take you out for lunch or dinner or something afterwards, watch out.
 
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