"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Is Significant Self Improvement Confidence?

LegendBoy

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Well that is the question I am proposing for discussion has anyone here financially, physically improved and still not seen extra confidence rub off in the interactions and in the process increased the success with woman.

Is there really anyone who has IMPROVED and not gotten better results. I mean real good improvements like fattt fucckkk to mad body/good body.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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danielzxc

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I was always pretty skinny (in an athletic kind of way) and used to pretty good with chicks. Since I got out of the game a few years ago, my confidence has gone to almost zero. But in that time, I have built a fairly "mad" body - I'm one of the bigger non-juicing people at the gym, and I'm just starting a cut that will take me down about 5-6kg and get me fairly ripped. Focusing on how it's gonna look when I'm finished (I've gotten ripped b4, so I have a rough idea, but I'll be bigger too) is definitely making me feel better about myself, which improves confidence. But like the guy above said, real confidence with girls comes from experience.
 

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LegendBoy said:
Well that is the question I am proposing for discussion has anyone here financially, physically improved and still not seen extra confidence rub off in the interactions and in the process increased the success with woman.

Is there really anyone who has IMPROVED and not gotten better results. I mean real good improvements like fattt fucckkk to mad body/good body.
Confidence is not improvement. Confidence is a belief in your potential to improve. Improvement...LASTING improvement...follows confidence, not vice versa.
 
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