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Bad Boys for the thrill and nice guys for the bill.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Is she trying to keep me a secret?
- Thread starter vanballmoos
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
StacksHitEmUp
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Classy bro. Why give a **** if she uploads a picture of you? It's a picture. Keep calling her an idiot, I'm sure it'll help. You getting to the point of rage makes you look extremely weak and shows you care way too much. Maybe start by showing some respect to her. You should be dominant, but not trashy. Disappearing on your girlfriend for however many weeks and calling her an idiot isn't the behaviour you want to partake in if you're in what seems to be an exclusive relationship. Some of the boys on this forum man... I bet you think you were "alpha" as **** aswell when you were insulting her. Remember the rule about the loudest guy in the room.
Anyway seems to me like this relationship is dead in the water. You killed it with your neediness over a picture and your random rage fits.
StacksHitEmUp
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Respecting someone doesn't mean being nice. How did she break his boundaries? It's a picture for christ sakes. He's a needy mess. Always respect your -girlfriend- until she gives you a reason not to. You can be perfectly 'alpha' without being a massive ****head. Jerks aren't alpha mate. Do I punish my girlfriend if she does something I don't like? Hell yeah but I dont scream at her. I tell her not to do something and she respects me enough not to do it again. Overreacting is literally the weakest **** one can do. Pressure situations are an ideal way to show how confident you are. Instead of screaming and calling her all kindsa **** he should've just walked because that's what a real man does. If you're not happy, walk away. I got no clue where you get the "nice" from.
Yea, but OP admitted that he was yelling, cursing at her, disappearing for weeks at a time, and pretty much disrespecting her BEFORE the issue of posting a picture came up. To that she said she wanted things to be more stable. That sounds like a very logical answer to someone being a d!ck to her.
Again, if the roles were reversed and OP came on here asking what to do about his gf who ghosts him for weeks, yelling and cursing at him, what would we tell him to do?