"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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is she still interested?

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alright, i met a girl 2 months ago. we dated for a week, but we broke up after a brief fight. she had to go away for the summer. i called her only twice during the summer, just to keep in touch.

so i figured that shes prolly back by now. so i sent her a text message today saying, "hi! hope everythings good with you and that youve had a good summer. are you in town? would be to fun to meet you... like saturday or friday? what do you reckon?"...

i got a message back saying "hi! thanx my summer has been good. im busy this weekend, however. im going sailing off the coast"



so what do you reckon? is she still interested. the fact that she answered my message is a good thing. but she didnt suggest another day to meet up.

should i call her later during the week or what?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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???

You expect the secrets of the universe to be revealed to you through a text message?

Unlikely. You have to be a skilled writer to create the same kinds of emotions and feelings that voice tone and body language produce, with words on paper or screen.

I wouldn't worry about the sms too much. Just call her, chat a little, and find out what you can there. *sighs* If I had a cent for everytime I saw a guy seeking interpretation of a text message

It's not astrology... and she's prolly just going to the coast, and she had a good summer. :)
 

Dust 2 Dust

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She's definately not interested, but if you wanna play baseball and go for strike 3 then you can ask her out again if you'd like.
 

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Pftttttttt DID SHE EVER CALL YOU?

If she didn’t she’s a lost cause. If a woman’s interested she will call she will even call to much.

Ninja out
 

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Are you one of the dudes that still txt msgs my gf's cell phone after having not talked to her for 6 months with "i'm back in town. how you doin? wanna get 2gether?"

And then repeatedly txt msgs her even after she rarely responds and when she does is progressively meaner because the guy won't get the point even after it being blatantly obvious she has no interest whatsoever especially with the mention of her boyfriend during your brief, awkward conversations?

She has a word for those guys.

"Douche."


.. heh there's another guy who will call her from a different phone just so she'll actually answer the call. :rolleyes:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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