Is she still interested in her ex?

[Squidward]

Hello fellow DJs! I joined here some time ago and tried to make progress and learning from mistakes on my own after reading most of the information on here, but right now I could use some help from you guys...

I've been seeing this girl for a few months now, been doing great.
Apprently a few days before I starting asking myself this question (Thread Title) I heard she wanted a relationship with me. Fair do's, although I've been unsure about it since she has been putting any form of sex until we are "together". So anyway, Friday night, we went to see a local band at the pub, and she bumps into her ex there. I was ignored throughout the whole night while she chatted with him (I didn't know it was her ex until today) and while he wonders off she looks around the room for him like a lost puppy. I think nothing of it and try to enjoy the night.

Before we left, she gave my a hug and he kissed on the cheek (Looked friendly to me, all good ). This is where things start to change in my mind.
I saw her as usual in college and she tells me how last night they were on the phone 'till midnight and that he gave her his number to "catch up" and how they both were trying to remeber what they said to each other before they left. Now I don't get it; Why would you want to "catch up" with a ex unless your attracted to them again?

My gut is strongly telling me to next this girl, which would be a shame because she as a cracking personailty. Is this jealously or is my instinct telling me to get the hell out of there?

Cheers.

 

[Bluesteak]

The same thing happened to a girl that LJBF me so I got the insider information. Apparently in my friends case, the ex of 3 years asked her to be FB's and tried to kiss her. She kissed him but no sex went down..... as far as I know
Im sure its different in your case but thats just my 2 cents

 

[jdon23]

Its is my opinion that a woman who still contacts her EX is very likely to cheat on you. Think about it. He's an EX for a reason. Why would she talk to him unless there is hope in her mind for a revival in their relationship?

She just wants to be friends with him you say? If you believe that you are very naive.

 

[Squidward]

Thanks for the advice so far, Jdon23 and Bluestreak. I'm not the one who thinks she just wants to be friends with this guy. Jdon23, I think you've hit the nail on the head, as I believe a Ex is always a Ex for a reason. Thanks, man.

 

[KingBeef]

This is where things start to change in my mind.
I saw her as usual in college and she tells me how last night they were on the phone 'till midnight and that he gave her his number to "catch up" and how they both were trying to remeber what they said to each other before they left. Now I don't get it; Why would you want to "catch up" with a ex unless your attracted to them again?

My gut is strongly telling me to next this girl, which would be a shame because she as a cracking personailty. Is this jealously or is my instinct telling me to get the hell out of there?

Cheers.

If you consider to have a good head on your shoulders (which I think you do have) than always remember this for the most part:

ALWAYS TRUST YOUR GUT....

Why would anyone want to "catch up" with an ex unless your attracted to them??? BECAUSE SHE'S STILL ATTRACTED TO HIM.....HE PROBABLY BROKE UP WITH HER FIRST AND STILL RETAINS THE POWER "SPELL" OVER HER.

Is this jealously or is my instinct telling me to get the hell out of there?

Again, TRUST YOUR GUT.... You're instincts are right most of the time. What kind of girl would totally neglect you and see the ex all night??? Low quality that is. Don't take her disrespect...next her...

 

[Squidward]

Thanks KingBeef, best reponse so far. My mind is made up and I'm going to next her. Save all the hassle won't it.

 

[KingBeef]

no problem. By the way, if you were juggling more women (say 2, 3 or more) you would feel not only more confident and reassured of yourself, but if you ever came accross such a woman like that again you would be more decisive into getTING rid her more quickly because you have not only other "plates" but you would see how obvious her "disrespect/flaws' are and wouldn't even think twice into getting rid of her...TRY NOT TO BE SO INTO ONE WOMEN UNTIL SHE PROVES HERSELF TO YOU...

 

[Squidward]

Thanks man, . Sound advice!

 

[Squidward]

Anyone want to put in thier 2 cent?

Thanks.

 

[Cashew]

Anyone want to put in thier 2 cent?

Thanks.

I think the advice given so far is plenty.

From the story it is a major disrespect of you from her to go hang out with another guy the entire (especially an ex) when it is a night out for you two. That isn't something I'd tolerate and if she thinks that is acceptable, then she is out.

 

[slaog]

Actions speak louder then words. In the club she was more interested in her ex then you.


Forget about her. No need to next her but just forget about her. She doesn't like you as much as her ex. So what you do is just look for somebody who likes you and if she wants to chase you then let her.

 

[WC2]

She's still into her ex. Don't take offense, most girls have a thing for their ex long after they've broken up; especially if she was the one who got dumped.