Is she smitten...?

[Porky]

This is going to be a long post.

Some of you may remember I posted a couple of months ago a scenario in which I was good friends with Girl A, and through her friends with Girl M. I was wondering if M was interested in me (she was, by the way, but our mutual interest fizzled out).

Anyway, part of the reason I didn't make a move on M was because of A. She more or less ****blocked me. She'd put comments down saying that M liked x amount of guys, or M was obsessed with some senior...when all along M was into me. She also would get pretty annoyed when M and I would flirt, and then give me her angry eyes and mouth "stop!".

One day I was talking to A about this and I asked her why it bugged her so much. She actually looked at me and said "you're mine!"

So, it turns out M flirts a lot, and A told me she gets annoyed in general because she feels like M (who is one of her two best friends) take away a lot of A's friends by flirting so much. I accepted this answer.

Alright, then yesterday during lunch I slapped girl L's ass (she initiated it). Once again, A gave me the angry eyes and told me to stop. When I was talking to her later, I asked if she was friends with a guy named Doug. She said yes, and I asked if it bothered her when M flirted with Doug (who she's known much longer than she's known me). She said no. I asked her why not, and she said "Porky, don't do that!"

I would think that this girl was entirely smitten with me - if she didn't avoid touching me. That is, until yesterday, when she half-sat on my lap in a chair at M's house and then let me play with her hair.

So, two questions. 1) is she smitten with me? and 2) what are some things I can do to get her un-smitten? I don't think I want a relationship with her...I guess I'm not sure on that one.

Please, no comments about her being an attention *****, *****, nexting her, etc. I'm past the point where nexting her is an option.

 

[Porky]

I should add a couple more details. Every day at lunch she comes outside and hangs around the area where I sit with my friends. I usually ignore her, which prompts her to yell my name and call me over, or come talk to me. All of her friends think we are hooking up/are going to hook up. She tells me about every guy that hits on her.

I also accidentally went ganji on her (to some extent). I stopped signing online, and she even asked me if I blocked her. She IMs me within minutes whenever I do sign on, and I've also stopped calling her to do things.

Thinking about all of this, I think her feelings pretty obvious. The thing is, if I made a move I think there's a good chance it would completely blow up in my face. I can honestly say she feels about me differently than she feels about any other guy - but whether or not that means she has an interest in me sexually, or can just really connect with me, I'm not sure.

What I really want to do is ask her straight up what the deal is. If she likes me, fine. If she doesn't, then in the mean time she's ****blocking me with ever. single. one. of her friends.

 

[box]

So do you want to be with A? If you do, I would like you to come to Detroit so I can slap you. Otherwise, I would tell her to give you some space. If that doesn't work, you'll have to do something to really upset her enough to leave you alone. E.g. Kissing someone infront of her. Then if she makes a big deal of it, tell her to go away. The only drawback with doing the above is that your going to get on her bad side and she will do anything in her power to screw you over. Oh well. Sucks to be you my friend.

 

[Porky]

I wasn't clear when I said nexting her wasn't an option. I'm not trying to get with her. At this point in time it's too late to get rid of her, and that's the last thing I want to do anyway as we're very good friends.

 

[Sexy_Malibu]

I love it when a guy uses the word smitten. I'm so smitten with you right now forget girls A-Z and give girl SM a call.

KIDDING!

 

[Jay_VCU]

Look, you both want different things. You just want to be friends. Tell her that, but do it in a C&F way so if she tries to act like you got your signals crossed, you can play it off as a joke.

Acd make sure you're talking to other girls.

 

[drixsa]

i had a few of these

the truth is she wants you BADDDDD

if u make a move you couldnt be denied even if daddy walks in

the truth is that if u want to hook it up do so

dont worry you dont have to commit to anythin

you are in the drivers seat enjoy

 

[Porky]

She said I was the only one of her guy friends who she would bother keeping in contact with after high school.

And honestly, I'd be sure she was in love with me as well if she didn't avoid contact with me.

Come to think of it, that's only in public. And Sexy Malibu, if you and I got together it would be statutory. Sorry.