im talking to this girl on facebook i like. she is single. i havent seen her in person in a few years, she moved to the next town but not too far away. we had a conversation yesterday on fb, then i asked for her number but she didnt reply back. i know she saw it yesterday. is this a hopeless case and i should move on or keep trying?
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
is she not interested?
- Thread starter spang
- Start date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
me: whats your number ill text you
no reply...
me: i cant believe you watch duck dynasty that show makes me feel like im losing brain cells.
her: i love it!
me: that means youre a redneck
her:lol
me:got any plans this weekend
her: not much i have to work saturday and sunday though
i thought about asking her to meet up for a drink but it feels like shes nicely telling me to piss off.
no reply...
me: i cant believe you watch duck dynasty that show makes me feel like im losing brain cells.
her: i love it!
me: that means youre a redneck
her:lol
me:got any plans this weekend
her: not much i have to work saturday and sunday though
i thought about asking her to meet up for a drink but it feels like shes nicely telling me to piss off.
Stort_Brød
Senior Don Juan
reach right up inside yourself... i mean REALLY dig around there something good and see if you can find some balls floating around. now once located simply tell her that she is coming out for a bit of fun after work on satuday.
but as previously said if you have to ask then chances are she isn't interested.
but as previously said if you have to ask then chances are she isn't interested.
alpha_ash
Senior Don Juan
Waste of time and energy. There have to be better options for you. Go use them!
TheGambino
Master Don Juan
Forget her, don't send anything. Her hamster might spin a couple of days/weeks and try to get your attention again. If she doesn't your 100% sure she ain't interested. Both win-win, bein afc and asking out even more will only push her away more. I know it can be hard if u like a chick but going ghost is sometimes and im pretty certain in this case too the best thing you can do coz she already made clear that shes not interested in a date. Btw if you see her in real life, dont mind testing your dj skills and asking for her number ! but on facebook, google+ lifeinvader whatever lol forget it
doneStort_Brød said:
me:well youre gonna come have some fun with me after work saturday how bout that
her: Well I have my cousins birthday party to go to when I get off Saturday
well i can ask about sunday? sigh why bother
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Shes not interested in you. Quit being an optimistic dumb@$$
Stort_Brød
Senior Don Juan
well i give you points for trying for sure man. good job to actually do it instead of remaining an AFC. this is only a suggestion though is next time don't add "how about that" at the end. it isn't what made her say no but it gave her opportunity as it is seeking her approval of the activity.
but anyways broski i would cut your losses and move onto bigger and better things. she is just but one of the many girls that will miss out on whatever wonders you have to offer to their somewhat meaningless life.
but anyways broski i would cut your losses and move onto bigger and better things. she is just but one of the many girls that will miss out on whatever wonders you have to offer to their somewhat meaningless life.
Spang I Love You!!!! Have my babies!!! :crackup:
Tell her your available every night the whole month and ask her when she's available. Make her sign a contract, if she can't make it say my whole calendar just freed up, morning, afternoon, and evenings!! When are you available honey.
Tell her your available every night the whole month and ask her when she's available. Make her sign a contract, if she can't make it say my whole calendar just freed up, morning, afternoon, and evenings!! When are you available honey.
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That is a non-interested attention wh0re who's in another castle. The fact you had to even ask should tell you something.
Case closed. Move on.
Case closed. Move on.