"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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is she itching for attention?

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A lady and I have been off and on dating since like 06 when we weren't dating (due to living in different cities), we still kept in touch but still dating other people. We've gotten up to 2nd base on several occasions in the past, but not more due to other factors (i.e. kids, her living with her parents). I've notice that her communication with me has been picking up more than normal. Then the other day, out of the blue, she picture messages me several pics of her showing off in a bikini.

Was she itching for attention or might she be trying to start another dating round? I think it was attention but wanted to get a 2nd opinion
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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It could be many things, bro. How did you respond when she sent you the pics? You said you two have gone to second base, so she is obviously attracted to you. Why not take the initiative by inviting her to your place and feeling her out?
 
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I responded with "see now you just ain't right for teasing me". She replied with "lol" and that was the end. She stays over an hr away from me so us seeing each other at da others request is slim.
 
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tharam04 said:
I responded with "see now you just ain't right for teasing me". She replied with "lol" and that was the end. She stays over an hr away from me so us seeing each other at da others request is slim.
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tell dat ho 2 maek a sndahwitch or get slapped. btw u speeled responded wrong,
 
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In that case, why not be more direct? She lives over an hour away, so if she rejects you, who cares (not that it EVER should matter too much)? You should by extra confident because you don't have to see her all the time. I would be bold and direct.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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xXColdWorld23Xx said:
tell dat ho 2 maek a sndahwitch or get slapped. btw u speeled responded wrong,
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My spelling is fine. Check yours first.


jarworpar said:
In that case, why not be more direct? She lives over an hour away, so if she rejects you, who cares (not that it EVER should matter too much)? You should by extra confident because you don't have to see her all the time. I would be bold and direct.
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Guess I should be more direct. Last night I sent her a message saying I know she got more pics that she didn't send. She lol'd at the message and then sent several pics rated beyond PG (if you know what I mean). I asked when I can touch since a picture only does so much. She said we'll have to work something out. After joking wit her I shared pics of myself which she replied with a " :^) ". Will have to see what plays out.
 
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tharam04 said:
A lady and I have been off and on dating since like 06 when we weren't dating (due to living in different cities), we still kept in touch but still dating other people. We've gotten up to 2nd base on several occasions in the past, but not more due to other factors (i.e. kids, her living with her parents). I've notice that her communication with me has been picking up more than normal. Then the other day, out of the blue, she picture messages me several pics of her showing off in a bikini.

Was she itching for attention or might she be trying to start another dating round? I think it was attention but wanted to get a 2nd opinion
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With all respect, do you really have to ask what to do here?

Step it up and mount her.
 
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I remember one part of the game were style is about to get blown in the toilet by a oversexual/confident woman. She said she was really good at sucking **** straight up and he mentions, when a girl is uber-forward, an overly ****y response doesnt get you laid and a come on doesnt get you laid either.. to inwhich he just replied "Respect!" in an indifferent tone. This wouldve worked in your situation because shes sent you saucy pictures while overly confident and you immediately gave her the ego boost she was intending to get. The respect response is indifferent and gives off more of a "thats cool, but maybe a bit tryhard for me" vibe, and doesnt really say how u feel... try it next time.. Let her do that little bit more then ... i duno.. if it were me i might caveman it and say "im coming over now"... if she lived near by and just go... fvck it...no permission nothing.... you always got the "but u sent me nudey pictures on the phone? wtf did you want?"... u have plausible deniability lol
 
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