"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Is she interested or not? Trying to see where I stand with my co worker

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Okay fellas I will Summarize this to make it eaiser on everyone. Okay well I have been talking with my co worker recently and I am really starting to become attracted to her. I mean we both are somewhat computer geeks. I love to dance and she shares that love as well, We have been talking with each other everyday and seemingly I can get her to come out with me right?

Well wrong....Is she talking to me because she is interested, or does she feel that if she doesn't talk to me things will get awkward because I'm sure she knows that I have an interest. I invited her to come out with me this Sat to go out salsa dancing...
I have her number, told her to add me to facebook and she hasn't done it yet after saying she would.

She sounded interested but she said that she had a prior engagement during the day a baby shower. Is that an opening to flake out on me???

She has not made a mention of this event this week and I am planning on reminding her Friday to see if she is still interested. She smiles at me we talk.....not long though.

I don't know I want to escalate this and have her give me a chance but I don't know how to push this further????
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I just want to point out the red flag to you: GIRL AT MY WORK. How often a day do you run into this girl? do you both work in an open space/cubicle type setup? because if things don't work out, or get ugly, you will have to deal with this girl everyday.

don't drop the pen in the company ink, that s all i m gonna say
 
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you haven't given enough information as to really say if she's interested or not. Women play alot of games so its hard to tell if she's blowing u off or not. remember the dating process is meant for two people to get to know each other so if you already know so much about her and her likewise with you....what exactly is the point of dating you??? update with more info.
 
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AAAgent said:
you haven't given enough information as to really say if she's interested or not. Women play alot of games so its hard to tell if she's blowing u off or not. remember the dating process is meant for two people to get to know each other so if you already know so much about her and her likewise with you....what exactly is the point of dating you??? update with more info.
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How am I supposed to find that out is the question? She has roaming eyes and other guys are talking to her. I'm trying to put myself in the forefont...

I mean yes we are talking everyday, but she is not telling me everything. She is being very candid. Nothing personal more or less.
 
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What do you guys need to know?...I did not call her but I have been texting her. She says that she had not recieved any of my text messages but she is ALWAYS checking her phone....

what's up with that?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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judging from your responses it doesn't look good for u buddy.
 
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AAAgent said:
judging from your responses it doesn't look good for u buddy.
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geee thanks buddy......:nervous:
 
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What happened to "don't sh!t where you eat". You don't wanna end up with a oneitis for this girl do you?

She doesn't sound like a woman with high interest tbh. but at the same time she hasn't outright rejected you. I think what she does with you this weekend will tell you all you need to know about where you stand with her.

Who usually initiates the convos between you and her?
 
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Me or her depends on the day..
 
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I don't mix work and pleasure, though I do regret missing out on a HB10 I didnt get with last year because of my judgement. I think you should go for it mate, don't make the same mistake I did. I sure as hell won't be making that mistake again.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Well thanks guys I will take your advice and give it a shot. Althought in my gut I feel like she's not as interested as I had thought.
 
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Is she interested or not? Trying to see where I stand with my co worker
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Did you touch her?? What was her reaction to it, did she like it and keep letting you touch her/touch you back?

If you answered No to the first question, touch her you spineless AFC pig (No offense)
If you answered No to the second question then, NO she does not like you and probably never will (Unless you save her life or something close to that)
If you answered yes to both questions then, YES! SHE DOES LIKE YOU. Use your DJ magic on her and she is yours!

It is as simple as this, it is not complicated at all. Do not add complexity to a situation where it need not apply.
 
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